Kamuka lang Inee. Tuyong damdamin na yun. Second year college pa kayong huling nagkita. 2 taon na kayong nagtratrabaho. Duh.

Okay. So kinakausap ko na naman ang sarili ko. To be honest, kahapon ko lang na-realize na sa mga lalaking naka-"thing" ko, isa lang talaga ang masasabi kong true love. (Corny mo! Hahaha). Hindi, what I mean is, wala na naman ng feelings, pero alam mong He will always be special. Dinaig pa nya yung Halo-halo ng Chowking na may scoop ng ice cream at leche flan sa pagka special. Hahaha. Basta. Siguro kung bibigyan ako ng chance na pumili at piliin din yung taong yun, kilala ko na kung sino ang pipiliin ko. 

Mutual Understanding..

✔Pagkakaroon ng unawaan pero walang diretchong pag amin ng nararamdaman. ✔Aren’t prepared for any commitment. ✔Pagkakaroon ng parehong damdamin para sa isat-isa. ✔sympathy of each person for the other, whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.

MUTUAL - Having the same specified feeling to one another

Masarap sa feeling na yung taong mahal mo, ay mahal ka rin. Pero, a lot of feelings will get hurt kasi wala kayong commitment..

Pwede kang magselos at umiyak pag nasaktan ka, pero bawal kang magreklamo, kasi M.U. lang kayo..

and “MU” leads too much drama. syempre sinong hindi magdadrama pag nasaktan ka diba?

hangga’t maaari ayoko niyan.. ayoko sa Mutual Understanding na yan.. ang gusto ko lampasan namin yan..

sabi nila masaya daw ang may Ka-MU..

It leads to happy life… DAW..

kasi para sakin, ito ay.. short time happiness with unclear happy endings, hindi mo kasi mamalayan na, bukas pala hindi na kayo MU kasi may GF/BF na siya.

sabihin na nating masaya kayo sa isa’t isa.. pero dahil nga sa MU lang kayo, masisigurado mo bang kayo na pang habang buhay?

kasi yang M.U o Mutual Understanding na yan..

stage yan ng, ‘PARANG KAYO, PERO HINDI KAYO!’

Pseudo-relationship ika nga.

“WALANG KAYO!”

More than friends…Less than lovers ang peg niyang tinatawag nilang MU..

PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP!!

PARANG KAYO, PERO WALANG KAYO

WALA KAYONG COMMITMENT…

WALANG RESPONSIBILITIES…

WALANG EXPECTATIONS…

meron lang kayong sandaling panahon para pasayahin ang isa’t isa.. pero wag kang magreklamo kung biglang umalis ang isa.. pwede kang umiyak, natural yan.. dahil nasaktan ka, dahil minahal mo siya…

pero wala kang karapatang pigilan siyang umalis.

wala ka ring karapatang MAGALIT SAKANYA..

Lahat ng bagay may dahilan, lahat yan naka-plano. wag mong pagsisihang minahal mo siya.

“HOLD ME TIGHT” - yan ang gustong gusto mong sabihin pero, wag mo nang tangkain..

DAHIL ANG TUNAY NA MEANING NG ‘MU’ BUKOD SA “MALABONG USAPAN” … AY…

“May Umaasa”

sino ang umaasang yun?

IKAW! sino pa?

usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.

The early fall wind bellowed inside the entire room and it feels welcoming with a cup of joe. The very same Malaysian coffee that you introduced me from winter last year.

You bought me a whole bagful and I could never quite comprehend what came into that grey matter on why you offered to buy me one. It was so out-of-the-blue. And when I asked you why, I was amused and bemused by your reply which was: “I’m just being a nice guy”. Ha! I’m not used to you being nice to me. At the back of my mind, I guess I will never get used to it. You have always been a douche bag to me. The rarest (loving) kind.

Despite that, I know you have a good-heart. It may not sound like it when you talk about your ‘conquests’ and all the other idiosyncrasies you have done in your juvenile years. Too cliché, but I always knew that deep down those rough edges is a person with a heart of gold (if someone just look at them in a right light).

Being with you for the past few months was hard to describe. We were wrapped around our li’l bubble of perpetual fun – the young, wild and free kind.

Our minds wander too much (even if everything is still in its rough draft) hoping to explore the unexplored.

Those summits we vowed to ascend. The ancient architectures we promised to go into. Those massive massif we dreamt of trekking. Plans. You got me covered with them. Things that my scatterbrain haven’t formulated since I have stopped living my life mapping out the future because it died on its natural death twenty-five months ago. So the old forgotten blueprint needs to be revived and altered.

Why?

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.  This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang.  Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo -- usually the guy -- may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo." This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."  Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.  So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?  Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang. Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.  For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.  Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn't commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren't ready to commit.  My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."  Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.  But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.  Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?  Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't. Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all. Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?  Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us."  Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.  Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.  Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.  But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.  When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka. Magpakasaya ka. Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."  Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya... almost, but not quite. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

When you say, "I love you," mean it.

When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.

Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

Believe in love at first sight.

Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

Don't judge people by their relatives.

Talk slowly but think quickly.

When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.

When you lose, don't lose the lesson

Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

Spend some time alone.

Some define it as "you both know that you are in love with each other, act as lover yet you stay friends".

Bakit nga ba may mga taong mas pinipili ang ganitong estado??

dahil ba takot ka masaktan??

--you were being hurt by someone you loved before kaya natatakot kang pumasok sa panibagong relasyon..

dahil ba takot ka makasakit??

--alam mo sa sarili mong di ka deserving mahalin..

dahil ba ayaw ng responsibilidad??

--dahil di nila alam ang dapat gawin ng isang boyfriend/girlfriend..

dahil ba may kalayaan kang nakipaglandian pa sa iba??

--sa ganitong estado, walang pakialamanan..

o dahil ayaw mawala ang friendship??

--mas importante ang pagiging magkaibigan at alam nilang dun sila magtatagal.. 

Ano nga ba ang pinag kaiba ng "MU" sa Relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend)??

--Pag MU, parang kayo pero di kayo.. Meaning, alam nyong mahal nyo ang isa't isa pero di kayo commited.. wala kayong title as boyfriend/girlfriend.. You're just enjoying the happiness you brought for each other.. Nandun lagi yung kilig factor kase di ka nageexpect na gagawin nya yung mga bagay na pang mag bf/gf.. But at some point, makakaramdam ka parin ng "pain" kase di maiwasang may ibang umaaligid na iba at wala kang karapatang magreklamong nasasaktan ka.. You have to know where to stand..

--Pag boyfriend/girlfriend syempre may title at secured ka.. There are expectation such as dapat lagi kang nandyan, aalagaan mo, pahahalagahan mo at higit sa lahat mamahalin mo ng buo.. Those are the responsibilities of a boyfriend/girlfriend.. You have the right to get mad and jealous if there are someone's flirting.. 

Actually, hindi porket mas pinili muna ang MU stage eh hanggang dun na lang yun.. Some people used that stage para makilala pa nila ang isa't isa or di pa sila ready na pumasok sa isang relasyon kaya pinagtitibay muna nila ang FRIENDSHIP..