I went on a date with a 40-year-old which is the oldest I’ve dated so far and was not prepared for the fact that I did not have to open the car door! That’s lesson number one! But I was ever so slightly tipsy.
He opened it for me to get in and then when we arrived he took off his seatbelt to open it to let me out but I opened my own door and hopped out. Haha awkward! Him taking off his seatbelt was obviously the signal that I was to sit back and wait for him to walk around and open my door.
lts a learning process! Ideally I would like to set the precedent that I am very much accustomed to princess treatment, and that is what will be expected, but the fact is I’m not. I’m very inexperienced after having been in a long term relationship since high school and all through university.
It takes a while to train yourself to expect the most from the men (and women!) that you date when you are used to getting scraps or only getting princess treatment inconsistently. I really only got it when he was in a good mood, or to lure me back in when I was pulling away, now I will have it all the time, forever, or I’ll be single. Those are the only two options.
I am naturally good at showing appreciation though. He sent back a drink he’d paid for just because it had a garnish that I was allergic to that was not listed on the menu. I told him I appreciated that gesture a lot. When you show appreciation it’s a very powerful way of making the person you are dating crave more, they want to get that validation again and again. They associate spoiling you and respecting you with a deep sense of satisfaction. One simple yet specific thank-you and he was beaming for an hour!
