Wow! I thought I was the only christian vegan on earth! I have a question I've been struggling with for awhile. My current boyfriend is an amazing man of God, but he's not vegan. And he has no intention of ever becoming vegan. He doesn't even seem to care when I talk about WHY I'm vegan. Any suggestions? I feel like this could cause a huge rift in our relationship when things start to get more serious. HELP??
You are certainly not the only one! There might not be lots of us but we are growing! You are welcome here anytime!
This is a tough question. I think it depends a lot on how you view your ministry as a child of God. Â 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns the dangers of being intimately involved with non-believers. At first, this seems like a harsh and unnecessary parameter, but let's consider why Paul suggests this. He asks us to consider:
âŚwhat fellowship does light have with darkness?r What agreement does Christ have with Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? -2 Corinthians 6:14-15
Now, anyone with non-christian friends knows that they probably have plenty in common with them. I have many loving and wonderful atheistic friends. But Paul goes on to remind us that we are sanctuaries of the living God, while we might have much in common with non-believers we are different because we hold a unique purpose. This passage is prefaced with an elaboration of Paulâs ministry. Out ministry, as children of God, as sanctuaries of His spirit we are called to serve a purpose that Paul describes as being:
by great endurance, by  afflictions,
by hardship, by  difficulties,
by beatings, by  imprisonments,
by sleepless nights, by times of hunger,
by purity,f by  knowledge,
by patience, by  kindness,
by the Holy Spirit, by  sincere  love,
through weapons of righteousness
on the right hand and  the left,
through glory and  dishonor,
through slander and  good report;
as unknown yet  recognized;
as dying and  look âwe live;
as being disciplined yet  not  killed;
as grieving yet always  rejoicing;
as poor yet  enriching  many;
as having nothing yet possessing  everything.
I see this as a relevant passage for your question because I view animal advocacy as a crucial aspect of my ministry. N.T. Write describes the vocation of humanity as that of a mirror. It is our job, as it were, as those holding the image of God and dominion of creation to demonstrate Godâs character toward creation. If you imagine that God is a light then we are a mirror positioned just so that His light reflects off of us at an angle to shine on creation. Thus, the reason creation fell alongside us is because we stopped serving our purpose of showing creation Godâs character. By this interpretation of scripture, I see it as an essential aspect of the Churchâs ministry to re-establish this vocation. To show creation Godâs character is to act as Christ towards it, to be both steward and servant. I cannot see myself being married or dating a non-christian because they hold a different purpose for their life, I cannot see myself married or dating a non-vegan because they hold a different ministry. That is not to say that each personsâ ministry must be identical, we all have different spiritual gifts. But one Christian cannot feed the poor and another Christian take from the poor. As such, my significant other would not have to be on the front lines of animal advocacy, but to assist the powers and principalities that feed into the oppression of animals is not just holding a different ministry but fighting my ministry outright.
Sadly, I am not sure what you should do about your relationship. You know your heart and his better than I do and with prayer and the love of God, I believe that you will do the right thing. I have given you a glimpse of my perspective on the issue as food for thought. If anyone else has suggestions I would love submissions on the topic! If you want to talk more about it feel free to message me anytime, I am always here to listen.
Godâs love and strength be with you always,