As someone who, for most of his younger life, just played Just Dance for fun? I've STILL not lost that side, and I like that. Around JD18 was when I got into focusing on the scoring aspects as well (Despacito being where that really started for me), but I still learned to play for fun...

Now here I am, over a year after I got my very first 13K... (for context, you get Superstar rank with 11,000 or higher, Megastar with 12,000 or higher, and 13,000 or higher (with max score being 13,333) not actually having a TRUE rank, but some competitive players push for it!) 379 13Ks total, and still going...

And I'll be honest: I'm proud of that. No, this is not going to be me flexing on my own scores, but I want to get something out: Be proud of what you score.

I know people who only get scores of anywhere from 5 Stars to Megastars and are completely happy with it, and I"m happy for them!

On the other side of things, I know several AMAZINGLY GOOD JD players who have got incredibly good scores on all KINDS of routines, 13King everything including INCREDIBLY broken routines like Taste The Feeling or That's The Way (I Like It) to just name a few. And again, I think they're doing amazing as well!

But, I've had moments recently, especially during this new event with Part Of Me and Circus Extreme returning to Plus, where I barely 13Kd Part Of Me and am still totally stuck on Circus Extreme, while these other incredibly good players are out here getting 13Ks left and right on them, where I just feel like it's a skill issue. And then I realized: it doesn't have to be like that. Look at what YOU want to get, appreciate what you've done and what makes you happy to get.

I know this may be a controversial take as I hear many authors want this, but as I see it, the book itself is the final product of years and years of passionate toil. It has achieved its proper state once it is bound and can only be perverted from there. It is the chosen media for my stories, of which any other medium could not do justice.

Okay okay, before I immediately get attacked, I'll say it a little more clearly: I'm not tired of Just Dance Unlimited as a service? I'm more just tired of the tracking on Unlimited. Don't get me wrong, for a service that's been around for YEARS (since 2016, I believe, was its debut?), Unlimited has had a lot of success with its Exclusive routines and amazing Seasons. However, it's really got to bugging me that there's been routines that have been on the service for YEARS with bad tracking.

Just to name a few: That's The Way (I Like It), Istanbul, or even some Unlimited Exclusives such as Am I Wrong, Shut Up And Dance, and How Deep Is Your Love.

I really just don't get why people are sad to see Unlimited go, when we KNOW that these songs will be returning to Just Dance Plus in the future, very likely with much better tracking as well! Not to mention that songs that did NOT get their tracking from Unlimited fixed when they were initially brought to Plus have been stated to be on the JD team's worklist to fix in the near future as well, which is QUITE nice as well.

As a woman who stress eats, was medicated as a teenager, which lead to weight gain, and someone who is trying to have a healthy relationship with food and her body, the one thing that irritates me is when someone sexualizes someone else or points out their health or diet. 

It’s no one else’s business but their own.

I’ll give an example. 

Mike, who is probably a better friend to me than Madison is, has lost a lot of weight. He looks great. I’ve always thought he looked great. I’ve known him from a couple of years, and after I got over my crush (still working on it) on him, I got to know him as a person who generally gives a fuck about the world about him. 

I thought he looked great before. I mean, I saw him regularly, so I was like “you’re a handsome dude, you’re nice, smart, caring, and a boss dude. Go you.”

But when people start harping on how hot he looks and start propositioning him, I start to think about how uncomfortable it must make him. 

About how uncomfortable men must become when women sexualize them. 

I mean, for fucks sake, men are faced with this societal pressure of having to look good, have a six pack, have perfectly styled hair and facial hair, when sometimes, that shit is not possible. 

As women of the world, who are constantly harped on about our hair, clothing, makeup, etc., we (women) should be telling a guy who is less muscular (lanky, plus sized, etc.) that they look hot. 

Especially because they have so much to offer. 

We have to treat the opposite sex like human beings and not objects. 

They’ll be fathers, uncles, lawyers, doctors, therapists, judges, etc., one day, and they’ll encourage the youth they work with, their children, nephews, nieces, etc., and they need to be able to project a healthy sense of self onto and mentor the next generation. 

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Why aren't you willing to apologize when you mess up? You make it hard for me to trust you.

You are a person who will say one thing and do another. 

You are a person who has to tell people that you're a good person, but your words and actions don't always add up. 

You would rather fix the situation by changing your behavior (it took you over 2 years to do so) and then waiting for the other person to see that you've changed. This is halfhearted behavior. 

And yes, I do see how you've changed, but there are times when you go back to doing the same things. And considering how much you care about your ego and how others view you, and apology can go a long way towards keeping you accountable.

An apology doesn't require much: acknowledge the things you did/said, apologize for it, and tell the person/people involved how you will change your behavior AND THEN demonstrate it with your changed behavior. Words and actions go hand in hand. If you can do one, but not the other, then you are still a person who values your ego more than you value me.

To quote Mary from P&P: "Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us."