You can be submissive and still be a strong person, never let yourself feel silenced or lower then another person because of a dynamic in the kink community.
Outside of scenes your partner should empower you for the strong person you are and not make you feel less. Never silence your voice and don't be afraid to advocate for your feeling and your needs.
If someone has the audacity to get made at you for asserting your boundaries and doesn't respect your feelings, then tell that piece of garbage to fucking kick rocks.
Kink should be safe, sane and consensual! You should never feel pressured to do anything your not ready for or don't want to do. NO is a full sentence and should be respected, and anything going on during a scene should be discussed prior to playing. I've read to many horror stories about people being in subspace and being talking into things their not comfortable with, that is extremely disgusting behavior and very predatory.
Over the last few days I've come across and have talked to so many people who have encountered dangerous people in the community. Consent is key and even if you identify as a submissive role you have power, you have a say in what happens and how it happens and you also set your expectations for what YOU need. If you need specific aftercare do not settle for anything less and ways assert your limit and boundaries. Kink should be fun not abusive and traumatizing.
Stay safe and be that bad ass you are
And stop letting fake doms get away with bullshit, tell that Christian Grey mother fucker to kick rocks and find a play partner that values who you are as a person and not just what you can give them.
Love yourself and don't settle for less ๐
