#pininglou

I’m not trying to attack anyone here or start an argument, just to have a discussion about something. I’m trying to figure out a way to talk about this without offending anyone or using the phrase “assuming a sexuality” lol.

I also don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with assuming someone is gay. I am made uncomfortable by the implication that it’s okay to say you know how someone else identifies 100% when that someone, while they have indicated that they are queer, has been dating the same person for the last 5 years and hasn’t given us any other clue as to what their sexuality is. It's not the assumption that they are gay that bothers me; it's the assumption that they couldn't possibly be anything else that I find narrow-minded.

I made a post a few days ago about how I was shocked that some larries think its okay to say that Harry and Louis are definitely, 100% gay, and I’m seeing those posts on my dash again. I understand that it’s frustrating when people want them to be “anything but gay” but I’m also baffled by the concept that people think they have the right to define Harry and Louis as 100% anything. I’m not defending them from the thought that they are queer - they have indicated repeatedly that they are not straight, so there’s nothing wrong with thinking that - but I think it’s close-minded to say you know their sexuality for certain, and to shut down the possibility that they identify as something else. Thoughts ? I’m very open to discussing this.

I will never claim to know how HL identify other than that they are not straight since I believe they are in a relationship. It makes me uncomfortable that some people insist they are “definitely” a certain sexuality when they could be something else, though. Sexual identity is very personal and it’s not something we can decide for them. ??

twenty years from now, when i’m a famous nihilist artist describing the absurdity of being in the 1d fandom in 2015 i’ll bring back this time i told you about my art and you answered “god help us all”

i’m in a chat posts mood

check the one about the lights i don't think i can top this tonight