#phyllisschlafly

Phyllis Schlafly, founder of "pro-family" organization Eagle Forum, claimed that providing women with equal pay for equal work would deter their chances …

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/22/madison-kimrey-phyllis-schlafly_n_5192278.html

Madison Kimrey is a 12 year old pre-teen who has made headlines due to her openness about feminism and political opinions. 12 years old only?! I know, I was shocked too!

"What you’re doing is attempting to limit my choices, and I don’t appreciate that. Let’s get one thing straight here. When I’m thinking about what kind of career I want to have, it’s a lot like shopping for a bra. I want to find something that fits me and appeals to me, and I’m not thinking about pleasing a man. Anyone who wants to be my partner in life is going to have to truly respect me, appreciate me for who I am, and honor the choices I make..." Kimrey wrote in a letter directed to a conservative leader who most recently declared that women who are paid the same as men won't find husbands. 

Refer below to Phyllis Schlafly's quote:

"Another fact is the influence of hypergamy, which means that women typically choose a mate (husband or boyfriend) who earns more than she does. Men don't have the same preference for a higher-earning mate.

While women prefer to HAVE a higher-earning partner, men generally prefer to BE the higher-earning partner in a relationship. This simple but profound difference between the sexes has powerful consequences for the so-called pay gap.

Suppose the pay gap between men and women were magically eliminated. If that happened, simple arithmetic suggests that half of women would be unable to find what they regard as a suitable mate."

This quote written by a female herself is absolutely ridiculous and it aggravates me that people in this day and age still believe ridiculous things such as this. 

I am a 23 year old college student, interning approximately 20-25 hours a week making an appropriate amount of money to provide for myself - with only my gas and phone bill being paid for on behalf of my parents. Ever since I was able to attain a work permit at the age of sixteen, I have been working and providing enough money to finance myself when it comes to shopping, eating, going out with friends, and any other miscellaneous expenses I may come by. If I could describe myself in one word, I would say independent. However, Phyllis clearly thinks otherwise about females. 

When it comes to relationships, yes, women do seem to find money and wealth an important advantage when it comes to finding a suitable mate. For some, it's a big deal to find a male of equal or more income. And to other females, the amount of money isn't so much of a deal breaker in a relationship. I'm going to dive into my personal life and personal relationships, hence the title of this post, to prove Phyllis wrong in that her statement does not pertain to all individuals. 

I have a boyfriend, Nicholas, who I have been in a relationship now for almost a year and a half. Him and I are literally best friends but I won't go into that right now. Let's keep this about proving Phyllis wrong. Since we have been dating, we have both found new jobs once. I used to work at CSUF and now I intern, he switched from a retail job to now working as a Barista at Starbucks. When it comes to calculating the amount of money made, him and I are for the most part equal; however, I make maybe $100 more because I receive a bonus for multiple reasons at my internship- I know, it's a great gig!

Income does not both me at all in our relationship. In addition, I know many girls who expect their boyfriends to drive everywhere, pay their gas, buy them meals all day everyday and I can say for myself, that I am 100% completely the opposite. Maybe I'm weird, but I am confident in myself enough to finance myself and buy my boyfriend a meal every once in a while. Sometimes we use the phrase "I fly, you buy," in other words, if I drive, you pay... vice versa. Actually, to be honest I love buying things for my boyfriend. When I'm at the mall shopping, it's rare for me not to make a quick purchase for him. I love buying him things because he really shows appreciation and wouldn't ever hesitate to lend a hand if I ever needed his help financially, or for any reason. 

If Nick were to propose to me right now, of course he wouldn't yet because neither of us are ready, but IF he did...I wouldn't hesitate to say yes no matter how much money he is making. I believe if you are in a relationship with someone and the amount of money they make is a deal-breaker for you, then that's a personal issue and that most likely you are with that person for the wrong reasons. In today's day and age, women are becoming more and more powerful in the workplace. Take a look at the CEO of Yahoo! for an example. If a man will not date a woman because she makes too much money, then that's simply an ego problem.