#pftalks

I SOBBED FOR LIKE 2 MONTHS

and I kept saying to anyone who would listen to me HES NOT DEAD HES GONNA COME BACK, despite crying over it so much

and they kept saying girl accept it, you're weird, get over it, denial is a river in egypt, etc, etc

AND I WAS LIKE NO AND DID NOT WAVER (even though i was still sad)

then eventually he got resurrected

AND I WAS LIKE SEEEEEEEE

Like no sex before commitment?

Yes, he could, it just would take a lot longer. I just think the situationship/sex before relationship thing would be his way of addressing the sexual tension/attraction without dealing with his *issues*, and that's why I think it's a likely that that's how he segues into a relationship.

He just has to do a lot of internal work to be ready to enter into a serious relationship with somebody, and it would have to be someone he already has an attachment too as well as attraction, and just the amount of time that would take without sex coming into the equation makes it a little less likely.

But not impossible!

They probably just start off as friends or comrades, not a huge part of each other's lives but have spent time together in certain situations like missions etc, enough to build up a connection. But he just has to do a lot of internal work before addressing on any romantic feelings. And it's hard for me to imagine him pursuing a partner with the interest of a relationship from the get-go, you know? Which is why I think how these feelings would come to the surface would be a kiss or something after a lot of tension, you know? But it doesn't have to necessarily involve sex.

Idk, even the word 'situationship', like yeah I guess a lot of my previous headcanons do entail that kind of scenario but I never thought of it like that, like it's a very contemporary dating issue being applied into a different world so it's kinda hard for me into the specifics of how Kakashi might enter into a relationship in a normal way because I think it'd be very hard for him to? Having relationships isn't an established part of his life and whilst I do see him potentially pursuing sex easily I don't see him doing the same with a relationship unless they already had a super strong connection to each other, which sex helps facilitate.

But again, not impossible! I just don't really know how it would go beyond them developing a close friendship with an underlying attraction, then some tense situation might force that attraction out, like my previous headcanons about them having a bad fight about a mistake on a mission, which might culminate in a kiss. But then maybe the OC can put up a boundary, saying that they don't think it's right for them to have sex. And then maybe it can force him into dealing with his own feelings for this person, and maybe say that he wants to have a relationship with them.

i also thought i should mention that yesterday i saw a middle aged lady with a rokudaime phone charm on the train, it was very endearing

I hope everyone is good :)

could u recommend me your other fav authors who often write stuff about kakashi too? THANK U

thank you so much!!

i'm really not active in this fandom anymore, if I ever was, but @lemony-snickers was always one of favourites and uber talented, as you already know. And I have a few that come to mind but I have no idea if they're on tumblr anymore!

I have a tag called pfreads, linked here, these are plenty of beautiful works I read over the years and wanted to share. But it's been nearly two years since this tag was last updated so that's probably around the last time I read a fic too - but please go through this tag if you haven't, there's plenty of reading material for you.

Tsunade what are you doing here

You’re supposed to be in the hokage building