#peterlily

what’s there to say… they’re terrible… they’re not even together…

they should not exist in a triad they should not exist at all what is the point of them besides self destruction…

the only thing that exists between them is mediocre sex and weird hatred

they only stop hating each other post jily marriage… and the reason they hate each other is so stupid… and yet they still fuck

“peter had to compete with sirius for james’ attention” WRONG he knew he could never compare to sirius… he was competing with lily for james’ attention.

peter might’ve been james’ childhood best friend but sirius is just… james’ person yk? so his only chance is to outdo lily (you can’t outdo the doer)

so yeah. peter hates lily for being his competition. he hates lily because he’s putting in his all while lily is trying to get out of the competition!! she doesn’t even know the competition exists and she does not even want to be there either way…

peter also hates lily for this whole… “i don’t like james he’s a dick he’s pushy he can’t take no for an answer he’s xyz”

and lily hates peter because he’s friends with james and everyone who likes james is on her no go list… (hence why lily hates marlene at first…)

but yeah they hate each other. they fuck about it. it’s mediocre. it’s boring.

but the real thrill? why they keep doing it? because no matter how mediocre the sex is it’s also a punishment

lily insults peter the entire time and peter berates lily and they’ve definitely bashing each other’s head while fucking and they spit in each other’s faces in a derogatory non sexual way and hit each other and they have this weird fight for dominance that is just a dick measuring contest.

but yeah. idk. that’s them. eventually they stop fucking. eventually they stop hating each other. eventually they coexist. eventually their history together means nothing. like lily goes from hating peter to trusting him enough to be secret keeper… growth. like there’s a scar on the side of peter’s head from when lily hit his head against the bed frame and it cut open but like… they don’t ever talk about it

they laugh they have fun they are friends… they trust each other… in fact peter had felt guilt when he told voldemort where the potters were because he did like lily… eventually… when he got over his own issues

but also he doesn’t feel entirely guilty and he considers himself brave for doing whatever it takes to survive… he’s a coward calling himself a lion… and you know what… even when he claims to be a lion— he still fears he’s not brave enough because he’ll never be brave enough

anyway yeah. they hate each other. they fuck. they don’t fuck. they become friends. they die.

Totally late, but here are some pics from the last Dapper Day! We were so happy to hang out with all these stylish, wonderful people this year, some new friends, some old ones~ It was a great time and we can't wait for the next one. <3

Dapper Day Fall 2014!! 

So, a while ago I made this disneybound outfit. All and all, the reception has been pretty nice, but there's an issue I've been trying to swallow for about a year now and I just can't be quiet anymore. I've asked in pretty plain terms that people please not steal the concept or try to recreate it, but there have been multiple occasions where that's been entirely disregarded. Needless to say, as someone who worked hard on my own ideas and with my own hands to put it together, it's a little disconcerting. I just need to get this off my chest and out into the open.

Creating (art, making stuff, all that goodness) is where I find a lot of my fulfillment in life, so it's really validating when people give something I do recognition. I spent a long time thinking up and slowly bringing the pieces of this together. This all stems from my passion for Peter Pan and his story and styles I personally relate to. I did what I felt make sense for Peter and what felt natural for me to wear. I was glad it showed since people seemed to like it.

What I wasn't so thrilled with was when I saw comments or received asks upon asks of this nature (and this is just a handful):

I try to be polite, I answer these things privately if not brush them off.  I never wanted to evoke the forces of social justice, so I never called anyone out despite how much seeing people steal the idea upset me. It's not that I wish I would have put anyone on blast, but I'd be lying if I said I don't regret not trying harder to address these people. Why? Because then I received this: 

I really appreciated this tumblr user for giving the heads up, but it was pretty disheartening to hear the news. What happens mere hours after?

Hmm... Coming to me because you know someone called you out on it and then apologizing after the fact you did something totally makes it okay. By the way, I checked out their page, and of the pics I saw they had up there, I saw not so much as a mention of them being inspired by anyone, much less a link back or anything like that. This was just one of many to follow. 

Just going into the tag "punk Peter Pan" or "Peter Pan cosplay" reveals more cases the longer you scroll. Most others I've either seen on Peter Pan blogs I follow. None of these people (ones that are blatant copies, that is) asked permission, or if they did, they completely ignored that I asked that they please don't try to remake what I did. As you can see, people like to use the line "I'll give credit!" Like that softens the blow. I don't know about anyone else, but I don't see one mention of me or the PeterLily account on any of the photos anyone's uploaded. On a few occasions, I contacted some of the people who did this, asking that at the very least they could link back, make mention of their inspiration, something. Not one replied.

But it's flattery that someone should want to remake your design! Not to me. Flattery would be a nice compliment, or some art, making a skin on Animal Crossing (someone did that and it was adorable)? I don't know, but things of that nature. To me, recreating the outfit for some convention isn't about complimenting me, it's about other people complimenting you as though you came up with it yourself. So, uh, this argument isn't doing anything to convince me.

I don't want people attacking those who've done this, just for everyone who has or would to know what it is they're doing through their actions of blatant disregard. It's insulting, hurtful and makes people not want to put anything up. Think of this as art theft.

It doesn't matter if you feel entitled to something (something someone else made for themselves, not for you) or if you think someone is being defensive in ways you don't understand. If the artist makes their wishes clear, you should respect them.

This outfit is just one case that happens more often than anything else. Both myself and Venia have seen several occasions where an attempt to take one idea or another was made. The small stuff we try not to sweat, but when it keeps happening, I think we're within our rights to defend ourselves. We don't own characters or themes, we didn't invent existing styles, but for all the articles and accessories we made ourselves, those are ours. You can do a punk inspired Peter Pan outfit! By all means, have fun, but don't rip off the one I designed.

There's a level of trust people put into strangers on the internet when they post their art, whatever form it may be. It's exciting to create, and you naturally want to share it with others. However, it's meant to be enjoyed within the parameters of respect. Just because someone puts something of theirs up because they wanted to share what they made with the world, does NOT mean you are entitled to take it as your own.

Did someone say Peter Pan theme for today?