Happy Friday Eve, friends!!! It’s a Friday Eve of a long weekend too! Yaay!
So, why do people think it’s appropriate to ask personal questions? I am turning 35 in a little over a month. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 and a half years and have been living together for 3 and a half years. We want to get married and have kids and all that fun stuff, but financially, we’re not ready. We’re working on it though. Any time we see just about anyone, there are always the same questions: “When are you 2 getting married?” When are you 2 having kids?” I can’t help but getting annoyed at these questions. I kind of just laugh and say when we’re ready but deep down I am fuming.
2 years ago I tested positive for the BRCA 1+ genetic mutation. It’s hereditary and means that my risks of getting breast and ovarian cancer are much higher than someone who doesn’t have this mutation. Every 6 months I have ultrasounds, mammograms or an MRI, blood work and a check up to make sure everything is still normal. So far so good. The specialists I meet with tell me every time, that the only way to prevent these cancers is to have everything removed. Mastectomy, hysterectomy, etc. I’m not ready to do all that because I don’t have kid yet. Thanks to all of this my biological clock has been getting louder and louder. It’s something that is constantly on my mind and I worry about it. There have been cases where women with this genetic mutation have problems conceiving naturally. There are alternatives but they’re not cheap.
With all of that being said, I do not need people reminding me that my “clock is ticking”. I’m WELL AWARE and telling me only makes things worse.
I get everyone loves having babies around. They’re cute and all and I do want one (or a few) in the near future, but I'm not going to just get pregnant because everyone keeps asking about it. I feel things will happen when they’re meant to be. I just wish everyone else would see that as well.
If you’re one of those people who badgers people like me, please stop. You don’t know the whole situation as to why people aren’t married or parents yet.
