“Well one person in your group is bad, so you’re all bad!”

How about nuance!

Pbj queer (peanut butter jelly queer)

emoji code: 🥜🍇🌈

This is a term that accecpts...

Paraphilias Contradictory and micro labels Non harmful identities Kink

This term is anti...

abuse exclus shipcourse community spaces (specifically the communities)* Radqueer community (also community specific)* Xenosatanist/LSD queer/any identity that promotes harmful contact Harassment (this applies to EVERYONE)

*pbj queer believes that both the proship and antiship communities perpetuate dangerous and exclusionary ideals. Pbj queer believes fiction DOES have an affect on reality (especially in varying degrees from person to person); however, that is no excuse to censor fiction. - Pbj queer also believes the radqueer community has too much discourse to be safe.

Pbj queer believes in proper tagging and spaces for explicit content, both for those that use it to cope, and those that want to avoid it.

Pbj queer believes bodily minors, theriform animals, and the dead, are incapable of consent

Pbj queer takes on a "live and let live" ideology, people doing things that do not harm others should be left alone. - It is strictly block, don't harass.

If someone does perpetuate harm, hurting them back achieves nothing, thus telling others to avoid those perpetuating harm, and supporting those trying to escape harm is important.

The pbj queer ideology isn't community focused, it is purely meant for ideology, the coiner of this term believes communities only lead to discourse (ex: what happened to the radqueer community with the pro vs. anti contact split)

The coiner has no intention to make a pbj queer community, if one forms, I do not condone it. - It is okay to use pbj queer tags, for the sake of those that wish to block the tag, only use those seen in the tags.

I made this code thingy to kinda just quickly express certain things mainly in terms of paraphilia, but other things too

I think it could be helpful explaining what spaces one is in and what they’re comfortable with and such, as some things within paraphilia spaces overlap with other communities.

~ 1: Community - (proship and radqueer on only here due to community overlap) participation within… general queer spaces / paraphilia spaces / proship spaces / radqueer spaces

🌕 - fully active 🌗 - semi active 🌑 - not active and in the community 🌚 - not active and not in the community

~ 2: Fiction - this relates to if it is okay to discuss certain fiction with another being, it isn’t pro/anti fic, just boundaries. My comfort with… roleplay / written media / audio / visual media (still images) / visual media (videos) / interactive media

💐 - happy to discuss and share openly 🌺 - will discuss and share in private 🌹 - enjoy but won’t discuss anywhere 🪷 - don’t enjoy but don’t mind seeing it 🥀 - do not mention around me

~ 3: Terms - Refer to with… Name / pronouns / orientation / paraphilias / disabilities

☀️ - use what’s in my bio 🌤️ - use what I have on another site (strawpage, pronouns cc, etc) ⛅️ - don’t refer to any if not close ☁️ - don’t refer to any at all ⛈️ - this doesn’t apply to me

~ 4: Discussion - My view on discussing… disability / paraphilia / fiction / (non para) attraction / gender

🔗 - I will not discuss due to unchanging views 🔒 - I will discuss but am firm in my stances 🔐 - I am open to discussion and new views 🔓 - I am looking to have views changed

Set up: 1/1/1/1 - 2/2/2/2/2/2 - 3/3/3/3/3 - 4/4/4/4/4 - opt/opt/opt/opt/opt/opt/opt/opt

My code: 🌕/🌕/🌚/🌚 - 🌺/🌹/🪷/🥀/🥀/🥀 - ☀️/☀️/☀️/⛅️/⛅️ - 🔒/🔒/🔐/🔗/🔗

NSFW only part below

I run the @paramisic-blocklist blog and figured I should have a more active main blog as I get more invested in the community

Name(s): Otto (< i like this one the most), Hyzenthlay, pbj, Jelly

Pronouns: It/its (< most preferred), he/him, no prns

Labels: gaybian, abrosexual, autosexual, aroaceflux, genderfluid, puppyboy

Para: autozoo, autonecro, objecto, autoandro, etcetc.

Stance: pbj queer - i made that :D, anti-contact

Alterhumanity: I'm a Pointer and like canine vivterms, I'm also something vaguely avian but idk what. Salmonhearted

like if it's in your bio as a preference for why you don't have it, that's fine

but if you're constantly posting about how DNIs don't work, I do start believing that you break them on purpose.

I take it as a sign you think they don't work to the point that you don't let them work.

I think if you have the ability to, you should respect DNIs, even if you don't think they work.

When it comes to contact arguments, I think it's important to recognize both direct and indirect harm. (this more relates to the neutral c ones /info)

So here's my view

Direct harm - abusing another being, acting without informed consent. This directly harms the victim, whether it be leaving them with trauma or going against their wishes.

Indirect harm - consuming abuse material. While not bringing one into contact with a victim, it does still contribute to harm. Even if there is no monetary value, the creator still receives validation in views, heightening a potential for them to continue to abuse their victim. Consuming the content leads the abuser to continue abuse in order to achieve more views, so even if you aren't the one doing the abusing, it still contributes to it.

Direct harm and Indirect harm are BOTH harmful, in my personal opinion, neither should be condoned; however, direct harm should be prevented the most.

Fantasy content, while not being indirectly or directly harmful on its own CAN lead to harm, but this is RARE.

The way this happens is if you consume fantasy content to degrees where either it affects your view on reality OR you find yourself searching for more extreme content take a break! This is really important to do in case fantasy content does affect you to those degrees.

That isn't to say it's bad to consume fantasy content, it's actually quite helpful for most! Just know what works for you, and is something you can have a healthy relationship with.