My mother in law does not like me or my ego, my confidence, or openness about my life's assembly line of character building process. Like anyone else that dislikes these things about me, she is a manipulator who knows she's in the presence of a better forged manipulator so she doesn't trust me, and mentions this at every turn she can get away with. But unlike a lot of these types of people I do think she's more intimidated by my ego because she knows I'm telling the truth when I say I've earned it- if anyone irritated by my ego had to live my life to earn it, they would all get weak and kill themselves and she knows this includes even her. No one would survive my life. And that's only the things they know about it. Not even counting what's always going to remain between me and god...
She also doesn't like me because her child has a terrible history with inviting awful people in, and I've made a minor mistake in observing out loud that everyone in this family is guilty of that and therefore no one else's judgement on me could be any better than my beloved's. Should I have said it? Absolutely not. But it is the damn truth! My mother did the same. My life was already hell before I came into the world and she had to make it worse by taking up the worst scum men possible and prioritizing them over her baby. I learned by my mothers mistakes and they are very common... and my mother in law readily admits to bringing pigs around her child over and over... she just hates that someone else acknowledges it. She wants me to be vermin so badly and cheesily begged me not to break her child's heart as though she hasnt shattered it regularly. She despises her child's wife for being so cunning as though I'm going after someone's money... there is nothing in my spouse to use... it's honestly quite pathetic! Actually I'm going to do what she wants to do so badly and build the life her child wants- money, home, career- without forcing them to brainwash themselves or be at the mercy of my daily mood swings and inability to communicate. My lesson to all is to never accept help when you can assume that its debt is going to be worse for you than the initial suffering because that is how you get indoctrinated into cults and cult like mindsets. How terrible that her child has someone else whispering in their ear telling them that this fearmongering is bullshit- what despicable irredeemable criminal I am for axing that control method !