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PARTY RULES

though we're very excited to welcome fanworks of any kind and all genres and formats, there are a few rules guests must follow in order to attend!

we are not accepting fanworks that include sexual content involving underage characters or fanworks that feature dubcon or noncon elements. this is a matter of what the event runners are comfortable with.

guests who wish to submit sexually explicit content must be over the age of 18. any gifts that include sexually explicit material or graphic violence must be tagged as such and appropriately wrapped (images cropped accordingly, text placed under a "read more" cut).

As we begin the season of “cookouts” please be mindful of a few things…

The Rules for attending a cookout are:

1) Do not show up if you were not invited by the host. I don't care who you know!

2) If you were invited do not bring extra people with you.

3) Always ask do I need to bring anything.

Even if the answer is no, bring a bag of chips at minimum.

4) Should you bring anything at all, bring it with the intention of leaving it.

5) If you have not contributed financially to the event you "ARE NOT" entitled to leave with anything wrapped in aluminum foil or in a Tupperware container.

6) Everyone has rules at their house, be respectful or don't come.

7) If your children are not well behaved, you must stay at home with your children. (Sorry, not sorry)

😎 The Saints will mingle with the Aints, if you can't handle that, stay home!

9) This is not the time for you to learn the latest line dance.. Sit down somewhere!! You had all of spring and winter to practice!

10) If you smoke, idc what it is, sit yourself down in an isolated area . No one wants that stuff blowing in their face or over their food.

11) This goes along with #7... The cookout is not a free babysitting service. You brought your child YOU watch your child.

12) The food is not going to run out. Stop making these gigantic plates knowing you can't eat it all.

13) Stop asking who made the potato salad. If I told you, you wouldn't know any way!

14) Before you trip about the sodas not being "Name Brand", ask yourself did you contribute one dime.

15) Before you open a fresh bottle of water finish the one you started.

Chances are some of you are going to be visiting friends and family this year and while you love them a great deal, there is at least someone there who will get on your nerves and their opinions (political, religious, etc) will test your patience. Then there are other social landmines to consider depending on your situation. In the spirit of the season, I compiled a few general tips I myself practice whenever I have to go to these family gatherings and want to avoid possible contentions.

Being A Good Guest/Host Means Be Accommodating: You don’t necessarily have to agree with everything your guest or the host says and does but everyone should respect the basic rules of the house and common decency. So, if it’s normal to remove your shoes before going past the front door or if someone you know is coming has a food allergy or dietary restriction then be aware and show your respect to your guests and to the host so you can accommodate their needs. If at the dinner table they tell you their tradition is to say Grace and you aren’t comfortable with that, ask the host if you are permitted to just remain silent or be excused from the table. If your guest has their own traditions and they ask to share it with you, be at least considerate enough to listen and if you allow it in your house consider joining in. By being patient and understanding of one another, it can go a long way in making sure everyone feels welcomed, despite minor differences in lifestyles.

Ask Questions Before Reacting: Someone may talk about current events in the news or about politics, or their religious beliefs and they may have very strong opinions at that. Often times when this happens, many people feel almost compelled to respond if they feel they heard something wrong and adverse to their positions. This wanting to react will not help you socially in a time where we are all trying to break bread and enjoy a peaceful meal with one another. Instead, if you feel compelled to respond to them try instead to ask them questions about why they feel this way. Give them a chance to share themselves and maybe even go as far to offer to share your own views too. You don’t have to necessarily agree or convince each other that one person was wrong in their views, but this sharing of opinions can possibly strengthen your bonds with one another. If what they are saying though is absolutely abhorrent to you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with making an exit from the room to put a temporary physical distance from your source of aggravation or choosing to confront them about it. If you choose to confront them, please be mindful of what you say and possible consequences for you and the other guests. Ultimately, it's on you to decide if you want to take this route.

Provide Escape Routes: This bit of advice is especially aimed at hosts: “Family time” is not for everyone. Some people have a tough time when dealing with large crowds, or you might have a small gathering and being constantly in the same space with the same people for hours can be exhausting. Therefore, make sure there are ways for the shyer or more intimidated to get away. If its noisy in the living room as people are watching “the game”, offer to set up a card game or a movie in a different room. If you’re the host, ask for volunteers in the kitchen so they can socialize while feeling useful. And if a guest really needs to get away, don’t guilt them into staying but offer them a quiet space and let them know they are welcomed to stay or leave as they need too.

If You Stay The Night...: This goes to the guests especially, if you are offered to spend the night at their place rather taking a car ride home or to a hotel then show a little gratitude and keep your things nice and neat. Same goes after you use their bathroom, kitchen, guest bedroom, etc while you are there. Essentially, treat their space like you would want someone else to treat your own. And if you’re there too with your significant other, being intimate with them may or may not be allowed, just use your best judgment (that goes to both of you).

A lot of this may have sounded like common sense but there are times common sense just doesn’t quite stick when faced with the stress of the holidays and trying so hard to measure yourselves up to some picturesque Norman Rockwell painting. Doing so will just drive you crazy and you already have enough stuff going on that you don’t need the added stress. Instead, follow some of my advice above and whenever you feel that stress is budding up, take a step back, breath, and remind yourself why you're involved. To have good tidings with friends and family. After all, that is what this and other holidays are all about.

I love my black dress…

rule 1: no smoking inside, no alcohol served

numero dos: no plus ones. party is at my house, no strangers allowed inside

numero tres: host gets final say over guest list, but guests have a right to know who is invited

numero four: RSVP so i know to make food for you

numero four.5: host is responsible for having food that sensitive diets can eat. vegetarians/vegans ALWAYS have suitable options at the taco bar, and the dessert is gluten free for thee. promise

(mambo) number 5: only invite people if they know at least 2 other guests. this way they can carpool if possible, but also so that they always have someone to talk to

#6: all activities must be flexible. a specifically planned out game list will never happen. it just wont. but a pack of playing cards sitting unattended on the coffee table will be opened

number 7: guests who have never been to the party location before should be directly shown where food, drink, and bathrooms are.

number 7.5: guests do NOT go through a door you aren't explicitly told is ok for guests. no snooping

8) if you must cancel, or are arriving late, let the host know ASAP

9) the host is responsible for adequate parking

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