Hey! So, without knowing the exact packer you’re considering, here’s what I can say:

If you’re thinking about soft packing, briefs can be okay. There are a ton of packing specific briefs out there, and a lot of people I’ve talked to shop at rodeoh.

If you’re hard packing or packing for play, a harness is gonna be your friend.

For me, harnesses are tricky, cause of my own barriers in what I’m looking for, so I only use them for play, and thus I can’t give any personal advice for them.

But I would recommend checking out testimonials/product trials on YouTube. You can see someone model the gear and listen to them talk through their experiences with it. You can search for any product and someone will have made videos about it. Try to find someone who talks about the types of things that are most important to your own needs, whatever they are. (You can also search for the packer you’re looking at and see what other people paired with it)

But if looking at videos is uncomfortable, the best general advice I can give is: since you know the packer you want, I’d search for your other gear from the same place, cause they’ll better suit the packers they offer.

haha dysphoria go brrrr

No but really though you really did introduce me into a whole aspect of myself i didnt know was there so thank you

aww, hey, i'm glad to have helped! that italicized oh moment can really get ya asdklfjhsd

I do absolutely have thoughts about Zed packing!! (gonna just rattle off a bunch of thoughts at once)

Packing is something that Zed didn’t explore right away. For him, it didn’t feel essential in the same way that binding did, or changing his name, or cutting his hair. There was security in those actions, necessity even. They protected him from the harshest aches that clawed at his gut.

But packing was something that landed more on the side of something he wanted, but didn’t need. He couldn’t picture it being something world changing for himself, and had no hatred for his body. His dysphoria was largely connected to outward presentation, the way his appearance or his name changed the way people acted, and packing wasn’t something he needed to counter those hurts.

However, when he did finally try packing, he was surprised by how it alleviated pressure he didn’t know he was shouldering. There was an unexpected weightlessness to it, and a large part of him that wished he had tried it sooner.

He is rarely bold packing in public, preferring to pack for himself than for show, but if Nia takes him to a club, he has definitely opted for a large bulge from time to time.

I see him with a lot of different lovers, honestly.

Lena loves his cock, both soft and hard. She also really loves to sit in his lap. (Lena very much wants him to be whole within himself, above anything else. She is super gentle and tender, as I have written her with Kara)

Sam loves to peg him as Lena sucks him off, so there’s that. (Sam is gentle in a similar manner to Lena, but tends to ask more questions and seeks to understand more actively)

Andrea wants him hard always, but doesn’t always get what she wants, lolol! (Andrea doesn’t make a big deal of him packing at all, and is much more of the mind of ‘well, put it to good use’)

hey anon! i love this for you!! 

you might be surprised to know how common your experience is. i definitely was drawn towards the masculine side of things really early in life, but i spent a long time just cruising somewhere in the middle, not really recognizing the possibilities. and then i spent a long time on the very masculine end of the spectrum, before slowly realizing that it didn’t really suit me either, lolol! (at least not entirely)

Honestly, there is just so much out there and it’s really easy to get lost, isn’t it? It can also be really difficult sometimes to find the thing that works for each of us, as individuals. (What makes one person happy could just as easily let someone else down, ya know?)

My recommendation is to start on the cheap end—the very basics—because there’s a chance you’ll have to try different things to find the one that works. (RodeoH, the shop I’m using for my giveaway, has some pretty fair prices, and a decent assortment of options.)

I know this isn’t what you asked, but the Mr Limpy series is one of the go-to basic packers I’ve come across, and while I know they don’t work for everyone, they can give you some sense of what you might like or not like about packers—whether it’s shape, weight, texture, the way it sits against you, realism, or whatever else. And once you have a sense, you can shop with an eye for what works for you.

Hm, well, the answer is going to vary, person to person. And the answer I would give now is very different than the answer I would have given 5-10 years ago.

My younger self felt the ache of something missing—a constant, acute awareness that I wasn’t whole. I can’t answer the ‘why’ of it. I don’t know what felt right about the idea of me having a cock, and part of me does question if I was swayed by my own ingrained notions of masculinity. I ask myself a lot if I would have felt differently if I wasn’t raised to believe a cock made you a man, which is a really twisted thing to untangle.