#our dynamic

My Dom was feeling a bit aggressive this morning so we started off with some CNC right off the bat in his morning message to me, and he also laid out some rules today (be in a dress, drink water, etc).

I replied about it being harsh and then had to message about something for adulting in real life. This is normal honestly and it felt like a real life glimpse because it’s ‘kinky’ but then we also still have lives to live, so below the readmore is the screenshot. Tw for ‘rape threats’ (CNC is a part of our relationship, so it’s totally fine for us!)

hey! sorry to be responding so late anon. i appreciate the curiosity and i love getting to talk about this because i feel like it’s something i don’t see a lot on here.

when we started our relationship my bf was explicitly Dominant and i was explicitly submissive. i thought i wanted something with a lot of structure, daily expectations, etc. and he was happy to oblige.

…until we’d been doing it for over a year and both felt frustrated and kinda like the dynamic we’d set up wasn’t suiting us anymore. my daddy has a more submissive side he’d been inadvertently suppressing and i wasn’t getting the fulfillment i’d anticipated from my long list of rules.

so where we are now and have been for about a year is accepting that we’re not 24/7 dynamic people, we’re bedroom kink people! (something i low key stuck my nose up at the first few years i was exploring bdsm and kink)

we’ve agreed that we just want to do what feels good for us. we need to be able to let go of the expectations we think other person has for us so that we can fully explore things we want to do. so that’s what we’re doing! no rules, no power dynamic, no expectations other than loving each other and helping one another feel fulfilled through acceptance and celebration of our full selves 🤗