I love being naked and vulnerable. I always directly ask for what I want and need. This allows me to see if the party wants to contract or not. Understanding is the signature to the contract. Being direct has always been my approach. To me it gives people the opportunity to respond and meet my needs. This is why my cipher is tight. I have spent many years observing my own behavioral patterns. Nothing triggers and causes me more distress than someone mocking my directness, emotionally domineering me, or trying to pacify me in lieu of understanding to meet my needs. It feels like a trap of fantasy bonding and is life threatening to me. I understand assuming a certain role based on culture/ status/ tradition or even as a way to make ourselves feel right or secure but that shit gets old as bigotry and it undermines our ability to relate to one another as equal humans. Understanding creates atmospheres of love and support while encouraging the individual qualities that bring us together in the first place. #bookofabundance #beingvulnerable #oppressionisoffensive #understandingisthenestpart#yourneedsmatter https://www.instagram.com/p/CY-TbDEDJDS/?utm_medium=tumblr












