#objectum help

aw :(( i feel like this is something we all have to go through at least once and it sucks

im feeling this way with my old laptop who's hanging by a thread, its always hard to say goodbye but hey. you'll get to get close to another car. you can form a new bond again, you can make new memories

Thank you! :D

However, over time he’s naturally started to wear down, he’s missing alot of his fluff, and has a few small tears and holes that cant be fixed due to the fabric hes made of. It’s at the point where i have to delicately hand wash him immediately whenever he gets dirty because of how much i fear he might fall apart if left unattended to.

I’m worried i might have to put him up/away in our attic for safe keepings to make sure he stays safe and isn’t damaged.. but the thought of separating from him is distressing. I also dont want to replace him with a newer one, as not only is he a hard to find blanket, but im also worried what if i get a newer one and im just not attached to it like i am with him.. I’d feel bad if i replaced him.

So Im not quite sure what to do.

I'll be honest, I'm in a similar predicament with my baby blanket. What I do is I leave him on my bed most of the time and handle him with the utmost care and consideration, always worried I'll tear him or dirty him.

It's really difficult to be in this kind of position or to give advice for others in this kind of situation because it's the kind of position where you just don't know what to do and you're worried anything could make him fall apart which is the last thing you want.

If you have the money and/or, you could preserve him or have him turned into a pillow case, that's been suggested to me before, but to me, those options seem off. Like, I still wanna cuddle him and I don't wanna change him. I just want him to not fall apart.

It's not easy to have your possibly longest lived object falling apart and having no way to fix him that actually works.

we have a few objects in mind for trying a relationship with so thats not the problem its just. im not really sure how to. start that relationship ig? idk lol, been really in my head about it. if. anyone has advice or something thatd be really helpful!! and even if you dont, thank you for listening anyways!

Maybe y'all could ask your potential partner how they would feel if you tried a casually romantic relationship with no or little strings attached? If they're okay with it, then proceed, and if not, then respect their wishes.

I've found that as long as things don't end on a bad note, I'm usually able to at least stay friends with the objects I've dated in the past.

You could write them love letters?

Sorry, I've been dissociating several days now and can not think for the life of me.

Idk if I should glue it or smth but I don’t know what it’s actually for… so. Yeah.

I think it’s for padding but idk.

I think I’ll just take it off (he’s really coming apart kinda in a few places) but I’m gonna see if it needs immediate attention either way.

it depends on the person, and the object. how object sentience works is different for everyone, (emphasis on this!!) just dont stress about it too much. also struggle with this, doubting object sentience and my ability to understand them. but thats okay, they know you care for them and are trying your best. I'd say go with your instinct feeling, and dont (or at least try not to i know it cant always be helped) think to hard about it or constantly doubt yourself about what you feel their saying etc. its similiar to doubting your day to day interactions with humans, even if you can get confused/unsure how to interpret things you just gotta have interactions anyway.