im not at all for policing people's bodies and privacy, but like sumn I noticed when it comes to these public sex/masturbation posts is that white queers have kinda this sense of entitlement paired with a victim complex that can only be ascertained with being a person with white privilege on an axis of oppression. that any actions they engage in don't require critique or nuance. like I can see the disparity between the opinions of white ppl vs non black ppl vs black ppl on these types of topics. I saw this a lot as well when people kept ramping up those 'if you're pro gay and pro kink you have to be okay with ALL kinks' type posts. some people just have a sense decorum when it comes to these things and i don't think that automatically means they're playing into respectability politics or are 'puritans' or got internalized homophobia/transphobia.