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Hello! When it comes to the chapter vote- are members presented with both the pictures and names of candidates or just names ? If this can't be answered could you share insight on what criteria you personally consider before you vote "yes" on a candidate joining your org. For example, would you vote "yes" to someone that has never attended a chapter event but you know is a friend/relative of a fellow member? Would you vote for someone that attends all your chapters events but you don't have a relationship with?

What is a good resource when deciding between orgs? Some of their missions are very similar so where would one might go (quiz book etc) to find the deciding factor? I want to be sure I am not being biased based on popularity. I am a grad interest and don't have the ability to a flat out ask a member as of yet.

Hi! I was wondering how many events would be an appropriate number to attend before expressing interest?

if i went to rush and am no longer considering submitting an application, do I need to let the member know? Or should I just proceed as normal? 

I applied to a sorority two years ago, and I had a mentor who was a member of sorority who wrote my letter recommendation. I ended up getting rejected, however, I am now looking to apply to a different sorority, for very personal reasons as I realize not only do I not align with the Ideals of the original organization, but I also do not align with the members on my campus and I can’t see myself being in the previous organization as a lifelong commitment. My issue here is, should I let my mentor know that I’ll be applying to a different organization? Or should I not say anything as getting selected is not guaranteed . I feel bad because she vouched for me heavily with the chapter. But when I applied, I was of course younger, and I can say that I didn’t really know what I want. I guess this is why it makes sense when people say use your discretion because I’m at crossroads and unsure how to I approach it. I’m only worried about alerting her because even though I know she’s in her own alumna chapter, she has ties to my university and I fear she will hear through the grapevine. I do know what I want now, and I am sure of my decision. I just want to know what the courteous decision would be?

If I am torn between two sororities, what should be my ultimate deciding factor? I could see myself being a member of either of them for life. With one, I love the current members on campus and the mission and history, with the other, I love the mission and the history behind it, but I am not fond of the members on campus. Should I make a decision based on how I would feel during my undergraduate years? I don’t want to join an organization with a chapter full of women I don’t like, but I know the organization is so much more than who’s on your campus.