The thing that really convinced me to be pro-para is how divorced attraction is from sexual abuse. people who actually abuse children/animals/etc usually feel no attraction - the same is true for all sexual assault. Itās more about power and the ability to get away with it. people who are actually attracted usually just hate themselves for what they canāt control.
essentially:
pedophiles: Iām a horrible person for feeling attraction I cannot control
actual child sexual abusers: I feel no attraction to children I just do it for the thrill
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Been thinking about this and I promise this is a good faith question: do you think paraphilic communities (such as MAP communities) be considered part of the LGBTQ+ community or do you think they should be different communities as the two serve different purposes?
Tw; lots of kink mentions. Non-explicit :]
TLDR; I donāt think lgbtq and paraphilia is exactly the same,but I think if we could be in the same community it would be cool ^^
Honestly this might be a hot take,and something even a lot of pro-para people donāt agree with, but I think at least anti-c paraphilia should inherently be a part of lgbtq+ in at least some way. Maybe not directly as a part of it, but at the very least parallel to it, similar to how kink and sexuality overlap. They are distinctly different concepts, but work alongside eachother and share community.
I donāt think that paraphilias are an exact 1-1 for sexualities, but theyāre similar in that they both describe an attraction considered non-normative. (Also,homosexuality was once considered a paraphillia as well. I think being transgender was too,and it was called crossdressing instead, but correct me if Iām wrong on that last one.)
We experience our paraphilias similar to how weāve experienced ānormativeā attractions, and donāt really see why the target of the attraction would make the attraction any less queer. If I am attracted to a male animal it is still a gay attraction, if I am attracted to a masculine corpse itās still a gay attraction. It being directed at a different subject than typically expected doesnāt Turn Me Straight, so the exclusion from the lgbtq has brought us a lot of confusion in the past.
Thereās also a huge overlap between kink and paraphilia already, and kink is also a huge part of queer culture. (CNC, ageplay, petplay, corpseplay, sadomasochisim, intoxplay, etc). These things already exist in lgbtq spaces, itās just that nobody wants to refer to it as para or adjacent in fear of being labeled an abuser.
To be completely honest I think the only reason para isnāt considered part of/parallel the LGBTQ already is that they think we will make them ālook badā. And to majority of the population, who already donāt know about paraphilias (and arenāt eager to educate themselves), it probably would. Mass majority of people hear paraphile and think abuser/pro-c/rapist,because they donāt want to have to challenge their beliefs and acknowledge they are being ignorant.
The LGBTQ fought hard to be destigmatized and to have a community,and I think eventually if enough people were educated on paraphilias and nonharmful contact, paras could too ^^ it would be long and hard as most fights are, but we believe that it could be done!
Feel free to debate this one in the comments!! Ik a lot of the community is divided on this one and would love to hear some other perspectives :3c We have more thoughts and theories bouncing around in here but didnāt want to get off-topic. Also, apologies if this seems disorganized, we just woke up.
Below the cut you will find our submission rules, boundaries, some terms and what they mean, and our blog-specific tags.
You can call me Rotfill. We are an endo system and currently the only mod here. I use It/they/he pronouns,It preferred,and identify wholly,on every level, as a coyote. I am also (surprise surprise) a paraphile. A proud necro,zoo,and fictomap among many others.
Submission rules
[Asks may be answered very slowly!! I also āholdā asks for extended periods if I need time to research a topic,or if I feel I need to give a more in-depth answer to something. It is not being ignored,we promise!! Also,in the last few weeks the site and app have been getting very glitchy for us. Sometimes asks and comments appear and delete at random,sometimes we get no notifications,and sometimes our posts just disappear from drafts. Weāre sorry :( ]
We have no specific required way to send in an ask. You can start with āparamisia isā or something along those lines,or not,if you donāt want to!!
If your ask includes triggering content like self harm/suicide, disordered eating, abuse, etc, it is still fine to send in!! Please just list trigger warnings at the beginning of the submission so I can more easily tag it.
Feel free to send in anything,as long as itās mostly on topic. You can rant, vent, ramble, callout, talk, whatever! Callouts on specific users must be paraphillia related and tasteful. (Ex, āuser @______ said [insert paramisic take]ā is okay!! Heavy insults, calling folk slurs, baseless accusations, slapfighing, and unrelated drama will be deleted. We are here to inform, not harass.)
We have no DNI besides pro-contacts and abuse advocates. Radqueers, Fleur, TransID, and proshippers are all welcome here,but please check our stances if you intend to interact with our personal blogs!! :3 We also have no age DNI and will not mark posts as mature to ensure posts are visible to every account. Suggestive content will be under the tag āNSFTā.
We believe gimmick blogs or blogs used for a specific purpose like this one should be as inclusive as possible.
We are pro/accepting of:
Radqueer, TransID, MUDs, proship, selfship/yumeship, Consang relationships, pre-death consent, nonsexual animal relationships, Alterhumanity of all kinds, demonized disorders of all kinds, Endogenic systems, Tuplas, all that jazz.
We are generally uncomfortable with,wonāt knowingly interact with, or donāt support;
Pro-contact for contact that would harm unconsenting people, Zeta, Xenosatanists, N.I.N or TransNazis, TERFs and TRFs, MAGA, ICE supporters, and genAI users.
Terms
A paraphillia is an an intense, persistent sexual or romantic interest in unusual objects, situations, or individuals.
A paraphilic disorder is when a paraphillia is causing distress or harm to oneself or others. Not everyone with a paraphillia is disordered.
A āBig threeā or B3 paraphillia refers to zoophillia, pedophillia (or minor attracted people/MAPS),and necrophillia.
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All animated dividers in this post were made by the lovely @cafekitsune. Please check out her blog,she has plenty more!!
Heyyy! So you guys mightāve heard me mention the blog mascot/fursona,Starru. Well super happy to say that we (finally) completed his reference sheet!
Super duper happy with how this came out,especially since this is my first digital drawing in. Like possibly over a year? Heās a sort of character for me to pour all my freakiness into,I like to put him in Situations.
Fun facts? Heās somewhat based on the omniphile flag,and is an omniphile. He is all of the B3 (Necrophile, zoophile, and pedophile/MAP) and many more. He has very weak shapeshifting abilities (mainly in fur color) so his design is mildy flexible. Anyways anyways. I love him.
Context: I am physically 24, but mentally/emotionally closer to 15. Either because of age regression or being age stunted, I don't know for sure. Basically, I feel more like I'm 15 than 24.
Is it bad that I occasionally feel attracted towards fictional teen characters? I don't feel attracted to real teens, just fictional teens. I am physically an adult, so I'm worried that what I feel is wrong.
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Not at all!!
Being attracted to characters,even ones portrayed as children or teens,is very normal ^^ not just in relation to age regression or being a different age mentality but also just in general. Engaging in fiction in whatever ways you like is not in itself harmful. In other words,nobodyās getting hurt if you like -18 characters,have fun!! :3
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tiny self-promo (feel free not to answer) but iāve created the blog @anti-para-blocklist to serve as a blocklist for paraphiles to avoid paramisics/blogs that are unsafe for paraphiles!
Really appreciate you making this blog, there was another one called "this is paramisa" but i think they got termed for the reason you're already thinking ofš
Tumblr hates it when people talk about their oppression bro
NOOO did they get taken down? I thought there was one semi active one when I started this up :(
Additionally,I apologize for the inactivity lately. I did not realize that side blogs do not send in notifications for asks,which is odd because it used to send them. All asks that have piled up are in my queue!!
