#nosparks

Let's discuss the GIANT neon colored elephant in the room about online dating: First Impressions and What's You Should Be Taking From Them. 

I still cannot figure out if I feel like a horrible person while I am perusing the depths of online dating. Let's take Tinder: the first thing you are asked to do is swipe left or right. Fantastic. So based on a picture- and the occasional sentence or two, I am supposed to make a decision on this human being. And I do it gladly. Choosing the guys, who are, in my opinion and with limited information, my type. 

Now, my dating record (or lack thereof) does not indicate I have a type. But I like to think it is based on my personality- I'm athletic, I'd like an athletic guy- I like to think I don't break mirrors when I look in them, I'd like a guy to be the same way -I'm not a hunter, don't really like guns- if a guys pictures all have him with multiple assault rifles, I'm going to swipe left. 

And the whole time I do it I feel so shallow. I mean, I'm not exactly a Megan Fox or Kim Kardashian myself. And I recently swiped right on a guy whose first picture wasn't entirely clear who he was, and the his other pics...I wasn't attracted to him. But he messaged me, and in the spirit of fully trying out online dating to the fullest, I messaged back. And we have been texting back and forth. 

Can you get a spark from messaging and from pictures? Because there is nothing here. Zero, Zip, Nada, Goose Egg. The conversations have been good, nothing great, usually me keeping the conversations going (a great conversationalist he is not). But the first impression, my vanity, and everything since is encouraging my pickiness.