...sometimes I wonder why I have problems with setting boundaries. Then relatives pull shit like this, and suddenly it all comes roaring back.Â
For future reference: âI donât want toâ means no. âI donât feel up to itâ means no. âI donât feel comfortable doing whateverâ means no, regardless of who is asking.
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aka, hereâs a summary of the last two hoursâ
me: you want me to do you this huge favor at the drop of a hat, after not having said more than five words to me in the past year and like ten in the past decade???Â
them: keeps insisting, knowing I have a track record for saying yes if pressured
me: no.Â
Parent: how about you do it as a favor to me?
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...anyway, this is all a long-winded way of me saying that Iâve spent the last two hours writing the single most passive-aggressive thing I have ever put to paper, and still trying to see how many insults and backhanded compliments I can comfortably fit because screw it, if Iâm going to be forced into this might as well have some fun with it.Â
am I an asshole for doing this? Yes.
Do I care? No, because this shit happens every goddamn time and yet somehow Iâm âindecisiveâ, like I wasnât socialized to be a people-pleaser my entire life and it makes my blood boil when these people I happen to share blood with can't seem to take no for an answer











