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How Misunderstanding Creates Barriers for People with Neurological Differences

When people think about disability, they often think about physical limitations. They think about mobility, accessibility, and the practical barriers that prevent disabled people from participating fully in society.

Those barriers are real. Yet there is another aspect of disability that receives far less attention. It is the disability created by misunderstanding.

Neurological disabilities are not always invisible. They affect how people process information, communicate, experience emotions, and interact with the world. Because these differences cannot always be seen, they are often judged rather than recognised.

Society tends to assume that most people experience the world in similar ways. When somebody behaves differently, that difference is frequently interpreted as a matter of personality or choice rather than neurological function.

A person who struggles with personal or social communication may be seen as unfriendly; a person who processes emotions differently may be seen as cold or uncaring; a person who expresses concern through actions rather than feelings may be misunderstood altogether.

Caring is often assumed to look a certain way, yet neurological differences can influence how concern, empathy, and support are expressed. The judgement is based not on what the individual experiences, but on what others expect them to experience. For many disabled people, the condition itself is only part of the challenge. The other part is navigating assumptions.

When neurological differences challenge social expectations, misunderstanding often follows. Relationships suffer, confidence is damaged, and people find themselves judged for things beyond their control.

As someone with autism and sensory processing difficulties, I experience this. My neurological differences influence how I experience emotions, process sensory information, and communicate. At times, this differs significantly from what others expect, leading to misunderstandings that become barriers.

This is why disability awareness should be about more than recognising diagnoses. Not every brain works in the same way. And not every person  can communicate, experience emotions, or can understand and navigate the world through normal or identical pathways.

Understanding this doesn't remove disability. But it can remove some of the barriers created by misconception. Physical barriers can prevent access to buildings – misunderstanding can prevent access to acceptance.

Both matter.

About the Author

Ilana Estelle is an author and writer, and the founder of The CP Diary. Born with something she didn’t know she had, later learning it was cerebral palsy, and then ten years after – also being diagnosed with autism, she has turned personal adversity into a powerful platform for awareness, reflection, and change. Through her writing, Ilana inspires readers to explore resilience, mindfulness, and what it means to live authentically, no matter the challenges.

Looking for inspiration and honest reflection? Visit The CP Diary for daily insights. To explore Ilana’s books and resources, head to her author page and discover how her journey can support your own.