[SubmissiveGuyComics is also doing a post for our NaBloWriMo project, though he’s hiding some of them on Twitter so if you aren’t following him, you should… ]

Aaannndd… day 30 of NaBloRrrrawrMo. 30 days of posts for November. Thirty days: THIRTY-TWO POSTS!

*flops on the couch*

This kind of ‘forced’ writing is interesting. I think it’s good for me. I posted things I would normally sit on for…

So the question for you all is – how do you communicate best? Within the dynamic or by stepping outside of it?

I see some form of this question come up from time to time and I suspect I normally give some answer without giving it a lot of real thought. This time I’m not really even answering the question at all. Ha!

I know that I’ve done poorly at times with creating a safe space for difficult communication. This came home to be very clearly recently when my first submissive got back in touch with me and revealed some things that I wasn’t even aware of. In short: Instead of coming to me with something really serious at the time, he quietly kept it to himself and was horribly, irrevocably hurt by it. So obviously I had failed at making him feel safe enough to talk to me about something difficult.

So I’ve had to take a good hard look at myself...

“When are you coming home?” she asked.

The question that used to be a sweetness between them hung in the air for a second before it dissipated into the empty room. She followed it with an ugly laugh that was much too loud.

There is a tone I didn’t even realise I used when we played, or perhaps more accurately, when I was turned on and tuned into him.

He mentioned it early on. “Oh, that voice…” he said softly, almost a moan, his own tone dropping in response.

I paid attention then. It is quiet, slow, deliberate, concentrated, slightly deeper than my normal speaking voice, resonating from the back of my throat. It’s almost calming, unconsciously designed to wash over him, like some relentless wave of water that simply and inevitably envelopes anything in its path.

He recognised it before I did and I love that...

Hello, folks! 

The awesome, super-talented Ferns from Domme-Chronicles and I are about to throw down on 30 days of D/s blogging. For NaBloWriMo (or NaBloRrrrawrMo for lions), she'll be writing and I'll be drawing comics. What does that mean for you? As she put it, "...and you, dear readers, will get the benefit of a veritable glut of beauteous D/s content." -grins-

Good luck for all heading into NaNoWriMo!