#movingon101

Random thouhgts

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God Bless.

Do not forget that before he came into your life, you survived fully well on your own, and only with the company of those dear to you. When he breaks your heart, don’t hold it in. Cry. Cry if you must. Hike mountains and shout your anguish out loud. Drive to the outskirts of town and just lose yourself for a day. Run and tire your feet, work your goddamn self out. You are permitted to get piss drunk, to smudge your make up off to the point that you can no longer recognize yourself, or indulge yourself in a heavy eating spree with or without company. Unfriend him if you must. Unfollow his social media accounts. Delete his number. Change yours. Completely block him out of your life. If he calls you bitter, so what? Who cares? Before you think of others, think of yourself. But don’t chase after him. Swear by the remnants of the fire left by your passion that you will never run after him. Leave a shred of dignity for yourself. Remember that the first minuscule step into forgetting is by eliminating the source of pain. Do not chase after doors that have been shut into your face but turn your back from them, with the thought of the possibility that in time, you will open new ones. Better ones. You don’t have to rush into a new relationship just to compensate for the one you’ve failed on. Remember to keep yourself humane by not allowing yourself to drag another person into your still "miserable" state. So what if he’s got a new girl? There’s no competition here. Take your time. Follow your own pace. Concentrate on making yourself the best version of what you can be. Read books, travel, try new cuisines, meet new people. Try to smile more, but don’t force yourself. Completely moving on over a feeling that you have grown accustomed to and had poured yourself into, isn’t something you can achieve overnight. If you miss him, that’s normal. Allow yourself to shed tears occasionally, but remind yourself to learn from them. Hang out with your friends, spend more time with your family, engage in activities that will keep you healthy and will keep your mind working. By then I promise you, one morning, you will wake up with a genuine feeling that you have been released from the shackles of your past. And so, after all the darkness you’ll be put into, learn to carry yourself up once more. It’s alright to fall as long as you remember to pick yourself back up and learn from your wounds. Who knows, one day, you might write a book about cold mornings and how you survived them without him. Don’t be afraid to accept new people into your life, don’t close your heart to new possibilities. Some people will come to your life, not to stay but to teach you some lessons. What matters is what you make out of it. I can’t fully promise you this but it is your call if you will believe me when I say that not everyone who will claim to love you will hold a gun to your head.

Most of us spend so much time waiting for our exes to come back. Hoping that we'll be able to resolve deeply rooted issues that caused our relationship to end. Unfortunately, it will not happen. Di na sya babalik sa iyo. At kung bumalik man, be prepare to suffer the very same pain that you are experiencing right now. Nagsasayang ka lang ng oras sapagkat wala nang kahulugan para sa kanya ang iyong paghihintay. Instead, get busy preparing for your new love. Let your heart heal. Lagyan mo ng puwang ang puso mo para sa taong mas deserving na makakuha nito. Hindi 100% sure na sya na ang iyong forever but a new relationship is always a new hope for true love.

Madalas, malinaw naman ang lahat. Nagpaalam sya at nasabing tapos na ang inyong relasyon. Di sya nagpapahintay. Di sya nagpapahabol. Ang gusto nya ay ang lumayo at magkaroon ng sariling buhay. Pero bakit ka pa naghihintay? Para saan pa kung narinig mo mismo mula sa kanyang bibig na wala nang pag-asa. Sarado na ang kanyang puso para sa iyo at kailanman ay di na muling mabubuksan. Tanggapin mo na ang mapait na katotohanan. Matagal na kayong tapos kaya wala ka na dapat pang hintaying bumalik.

When you realize that your only choice is to walk away from him, make up your mind. Panindigan mo kahit na mahirap dahil mahal mo pa sya. Sa maraming pagkakataon, di sapat ang pag-ibig para magsama. May ilang mas mahalagang katangian ang isang relasyon para mag-work kagaya ng mutual respect at honesty. Mahirap magmahal ng taong di iginagalang ang iyong pagkatao, opinyon, at kasiyahan. Marupok ang relasyon kapag ito ay puno ng kasinungalingan. Gaano man kahirap, nararapat nang lumayo ka...