#movingbacktouni

I thought it would be interesting to type a blog or something of the like. So, to be crude - these are some things that people said to me about university but lied about. Well, literally speaking, they weren’t lying. But in a way they were. Let’s get to it! 

1) “It will be the best time of your life” 

So, throughout Year 13 of Sixth Form I had teachers, parents, students and many, many other people stated to me that it would, quote on quote: “be the best time in my life”. Now to these people - yes. It indeed was the best time of their lives. However - and I repeat, however. I am normally told this by people who are more extroverted and find social situations much easier than I. Now there’s nothing wrong about sharing your positive or negative experience. However, I only ever got this from people without my way of thinking. If that makes any sense of course. 

Take note my friends, that it can be very discouraging when you’re continuously told that something will be amazing to the point that it’s the best moment in your life. Until you get there yourself and think - damn. I feel lied to. Because honestly, my experience is not that great. My first year was miserable until I made a few close friends. But even then - I have a lot of regrets. And I’m just not that happy if I’m being honest. I don’t know how to be happy honestly, I’m just no that good at it. 

2) Introvert vs Extrovert

University can be difficult if you’re not the best at being around people every single day and you’re degree is like 80% group work based. From what I’ve seen, people who are naturally more outgoing find it easier to make friends at uni. Or you get people who aren’t that extroverted and naturally come out of their shell. And then you get people like me who just struggle with making associations and friendships. I don’t necessarily have any close friends in my degree. And if I want a job in the field of my degree then I need to make contacts. That hasn’t been happening. Well done me. 

I guess I wish that people would think: “oh, University’s fun, however it might be less interesting socially for you because you do like your alone time. But there are societies! Try to join as many as possible!” I think the idea that everyone has the same brain and find social situations and drinking fun and quick and easy. But at the end of the day it’s not the way humans work. I personally didn’t go to the parties at my fresher’s week last year. I went to the little fairs but that’s about it. I’m not a big fan of partying and I don’t drink. And personally it sucks because there’s lots of people who see me as weird for it. It sucks. 

3) Family

I am very family orientated. Only my immediate family live in England and honestly I’m really close to my family. I never shut up about them because I’m really attached. No one really talks about how much it sucks not being in the same place as your family. It’s really sad and makes me feel like shit. It makes me feel so lonely. People say you get over being homesick - but depending on the type of person you are - you won’t. 

4) Friends From Far

Something people don’t seem to mention for some reason, is the fact that a lot of friends you make will most likely be from far away areas in your country, or might even be from different countries. So even though I have made a few close friends - they’re all in different countries. So during summer I couldn’t meet up with anyone. Everyone lived far away. And it sucks. 

I think the idea of friends at uni is a very delicate matter and as someone who gets attached to people, it sucks. And it feels like the worst feeling in the world. I don’t know if other people feel the same. But it’s just how I feel.