#mod input.

To be clear, I do not endorse harassing or interacting with Aku or anyone mentioned on this blog in any way. If you dislike someone in the RPC, you should block them, blacklist them and move on. This goes for both sides. If they block evade, block them there too, or block the anon. Don't give them attention.

That said, the one opinion I will share regarding many receipts that get reblogged here, is that the way Aku speaks to people is deeply concerning. Regardless of the gross content posted on her blogs, what's even more glaring is how disrespectful, cruel, and vile she is when speaking to other people. It is not mature and it shows that, in my opinion, there has been no growth on her end, despite her claims that she has self reflected.

If someone previously called out on Tumblr truly wants to change, it is absolutely possible to achieve. People have done it, successfully, and although their victims may not ever forgive or accept them, they do manage to find new friendships. The difference in those stories is that they acknowledged their behavior, sincerely, offered apologies either directly or indirectly to the people they hurt, and then they moved on. They did not block evade. They did not stalk, harass, or keep those peoples names in their mouths, even if they were, yes, sometimes warning people about them behind the scenes of the RPC. Those who have been called out in the past who did change self reflected and moved forward with the understanding that no one owed them anything, but to those who did decide to give them a second chance, they exhibited changed behavior to.

That is, in my opinion, why all of us have these blogs dedicated to keeping track of Aku and having to gather all these receipts and, even years later, keep people updated on her whereabouts. Because at times she isn't honest about where she's active and she tries to hide where she is, or makes it difficult to keep her blocked, or gets upset when people spread around her URL to people who want to keep her blocked rather than just accepting there is inevitably a chunk of this community that just doesn't want to write with her. Furthermore, she cries wolf and vagues people on her blogs constantly rather than acknowledging that it's no one's fault but her own she's in this position.

She block evades and whines on her blogs about things that are years past, because she can't let go and move on or simply refuses to, presumably by her attitude about it because she doesn't think she's ever done anything wrong. And thus, the pattern repeats itself when new people stumble upon her, give her a chance, and either realize that she hasn't changed, or that her personality is, whether intentional or not, extremely aggressive.

There is no dialoguing with people who don't want to change or apologize or grow. She can't be helped and she doesn't WANT to actually be better. So just stop engaging with her. Block her. Blacklist her. Ignore her, if she comes into your dms / ims or block evades. Send in evidence to blogs that keep these receipts for people to see that she's still doing this, to this very day, and then don't give her any acknowledgement. There is nothing else anyone can do.

I hope that Aku does change and get help one day, but no one on Tumblr owes her their time or energy or ear or sympathy. The only one left with any regrets, at the end of the day, is Aku, who has completely burned her bridges on this site minus the, what, small handful of people willing to still acknowledge her? That is no one's fault but her own, and none of the people on this site are responsible for her nor does anyone need to give her their time if they don't want to.

I would love nothing more than for all this to be wrapped up so we can just get on with our lives. The only reason I made this blog in the first place was because of how hard Aku made it to to know all her URLs so I could just keep her blocked, so I hoped doing this would help me keep track of the new blogs she'd make when people sent them in so I could keep her away from my dashboard, and that was it. At the end of all this, I just wish Aku would make a blogroll on all her blogs if she sticks around and be honest about who she is moving forward, so people who don't want to risk interacting with her could block her, and then she could move forward herself from there.

To be clear, I am not personally one of Aku's victims nor do I have an extensive past with her minus the odd unpleasant interaction, so I cannot comment on her apology. I have my own reasons for caring so much about keeping her off my dash, but I don't consider our past interactions to be anything compared to peoples' experiences here. I hope if anyone still hoped for an apology at this point that they can at least have closure now, whether they accept it or believe Aku or not (of which you are required to do neither.)

And I hope that Aku can stop putting so much stock into the fact that not everyone is going to like or forgive or be willing to be around her. If you really want to move on, you're going to have to accept all the bridges you've burned and just be honest going forward. Actions speak louder than words or any written apology. Put your name on all your blogs. Put a blogroll on there. Don't be vague about your past or the content you write, spell it out for people in your rules, bluntly and without emotional language. Let people decide if they're willing to give you a chance once they're given the facts, and if they are, show those people you're trying to be kinder. If you feel as if you've properly apologized, stop worrying about people long past and let it go. Let them block you, let it be over, and stop talking about it.

I don't really have more personal input in all this. This never should've gone on for as long as it did through all these years, and I hope that this issue finally gets laid to rest. I hope everyone involved can just move on, because I honestly feel like at this point, that's what everyone probably wants.

The fact she maintains an attitude of "just get over it already, I apologized" (poorly, might I add) proves that it was never about growing, never about making things right, never about genuinely looking at herself. She learned nothing, and so we are right back where we were. For someone who "just wants to write," she spends a lot of time guilt tripping strangers on her dash as opposed to just writing with the small gaggle of people who are or were willing to interact with her.

To quote myself from over a year ago,

Actions speak louder than words or any written apology. Put your name on all your blogs. Put a blogroll on there. Don't be vague about your past or the content you write, spell it out for people in your rules, bluntly and without emotional language. Let people decide if they're willing to give you a chance once they're given the facts, and if they are, show those people you're trying to be kinder. If you feel as if you've properly apologized, stop worrying about people long past and let it go. Let them block you, let it be over, and stop talking about it.