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Salam alykum lovely ladies, How are we prepping for #ramadan2017 May Allah (S) accept all our efforts. Still on our #towardsabetterramadhan discussions in shaa Allah. No time is perfect for a break during Ramadan; we start with anticipations, we enter the second 10 with hope and we conclude with mixed feelings (determined to earn all the blessing of these days and sad that Ramadan is going). However, this is the reality for us women; just when you are feeling that spiritual high, one menstrual cycle will just come like that. This can be a very tricky situation and if not properly handled can make us feel defeated. Once upon a long time ago; I found myself in this situation at the last 10 days of Ramadan. I thought Allah (S) was angry with me 'astagfirullah', I was sooo sad and even went ahead to say Nawafil during tahajjud. We will also appreciate if you can educate us on how a woman can recite the Quran during her cycle. So how do you manage to maintain your spiritual composure even while on a break? Let share sisters! #MLBpost2017 #MLBrealtalk #towardsabetterramadhan #ramadan2017 #ramadan #muslims #islam (at Lagos, Nigeria)

Asmau married her husband of ten years, Abdul when he was still struggling to graduate from school and she was already working as a civil servant. During those hard years promises were made and she was the best wife anyone could wish for. 9 years later, Abdul married a young university undergraduate student as his mathna to which Asmau didn't bat an eyelid much to the dismay of friends and family who knew their history. The only time she reacted was when Abdul wanted to bring his wife to live under the same roof with Asmau in a house she financially help built. ---- Another bone of contention is brewing and Asmau is struggling to stay calm but gradually loosing it... ---- A year before Abdul married a second wife, he told Asmau he will love to buy her a car, he however couldn't afford the car she wanted. So they both contributed to buy the car but Asmau told everyone that matters that her husband bought the car for her as a surprise gift. Now Abdul will like to buy a car for his new amariya, and he want to do justice by making sure he give her the same type Asmau uses, unfortunately, he can't afford it. ---- So he is telling Asmau to sell her car so that they can use the money to buy a smaller one which he will be able to afford for his mathna and Asmau said NO! Now he is threatening to divorce her if she refuse to obey his wish. ---- What should she do! #MLBpost2017 #MLBrealtalk #discussion #forum (at Lagos, Nigeria)

Contrary to general beliefs that nothing good comes from the social media, it has helped won over so many lost souls, create new friendship bonds, reignite old ones and sell businesses (just to mention a few). However, just like every good thing, when moderation or occasional abstinence is not applied, it can bring toxic into our body and soul. This can among other things be refer to as the #likeomania syndrome. Over the last few days, I decided to give myself some social media break; not total abstinence as I would have love but I was able to replace my near obsession with it with something else I love doing #reading and it has been working so well, Alhamdulillah. So how about you; how do you detoxify your body/soul from the social media toxic? Let discuss! Thank you. #MLBpost2017 #MLBrealtalk #socialmediasyndrome #likeomania (at Lagos, Nigeria)

For the purpose of this discussion, we will define muslim mum to mean a woman whose child/children are toddlers, infants or she is got both. Every Muslim struggles with concentration during sallah but for a mother this usually takes another dimension. Just when you are thankful that this sallah will be perform in peace with precision, your little child ran to you screaming "mama, I want to wee" or the tiny one wakes up screaming the house down or those moments when you just want to have a quiet time your Lord at the wee hours of the morning just to mention a few and the chaos (good one though) begins again. My people has this popular saying 'Olohun lohun gba irun alabiyamo' (meaning- Allah (S) understands what a mother is going through and He will accept her sallah), however, we shouldn't use that as an excuse not to strive for perfection in our sallah. Please let us share practicable tips that are tested with each other on how to go around these cute little bundles of ours in attainment of khushoo in our sallah. #MLBpost2017 #MLBrealtalk #discussions #muslimmum (at Lagos, Nigeria)

Initially I didn't want to post #MLBrealtalk today because... Then something I have been thinking about for a while came back to me. Why does it seem like this ummah is seeking mundane validation? First it was D&G with their Abaya collection, Playboy magazine with cover photos etc now it is Nike with their hijab. From a muslim girl who walk the runway for Kanye West, we keep celebrating the same thing Islam has come to correct. I don't know if I am sounding like a bore, but all these developments are sending some fears into my heart. What is your take on this please? #MLBpost2017 #MLBrealtalk #discussiontime (at Lagos, Nigeria)

Our #MLBrealtalk today nah JAMB question A brother once told me how his wonderful mum brought a second wife for his dad; he believes that is why their home is harmonious and thinks every Muslim woman should adopt such. Me I told him without blinking an eyelid "NO! I can not do it" Alhamdulillah, I understand Islam well enough to not turn myself into a nuisance if my husband choose to do mathna, but I WILL NEVER BE THE ONE TO GO GET THE WIFE FOR HIM. Over to you; can you do it? #MLBpost2017 #MLBrealtalk

Sis Asmah is married with 4 kids. Her hubby is got a good job so we can say they are rolling in it; with a nice car and a beautiful home in the suburb of Lagos. To anyone looking at her from outside, she is happily married or so we all think until the day she opened up in a private gathering of sisters. She said she can't refer to her hubby as her friend; they are not fighting in fact he is a good man but they do not communicate except when they have to talk about the children and the home needs. Couples chitchat doesn't exist between them (you know the type where husband and wife talk about their day etc). They don't joke with each other, this does not apply to her relationship with him alone even with his children, he never joke or play. She is about to give up and live with it since all her attempts to change things hasn't yield any positive result. Please kindly advice this sister. #MLBpost2017 #MLBrealtalk (at Lagos, Nigeria)

Many women who are contemporaries of our mothers suffers from depression and High blood pressure; unfortunately most of these are as a result of their marriages. My father used to tell my sibs and I that we should love our husbands wholeheartedly, respect and honor them; but in the process of doing this, we should not forget to love ourselves, go after our dreams and develop ourselves. Some women tend to forget themselves and their dreams once they get married. - - - - - Women like these tend to suffer from depression if the so called husband disappoint them, stop appreciating them or abandone them! It is very sad to see that this still exist even in the 21st century with all that is available to help us know better. - - - - - How do we regain our confidence and avoid dying slowly for a man who doesn't even notice our pains? Azeezah #MLBposts2017 #MLBrealtalk #sisterssupportingsisters #muslimahbloggers