i made a friend and she happens to be psychotic and i mentioned that to my parents and they both said "oh wow don't tell her where you live" like i shouldn't trust her? but she is such a sweet person i don't think she would ever hurt me. so i thought they were just being ignorant but my dad used to work with psychotic people so part of me thinks i should listen to him but on the other hand he has never met her. i should just trust my friend right? how should i talk to my parents about this? -mkj
This is really a tricky situation because, while you want to trust your friend and your dad’s experiences, I would really advise you to rethink that. The idea that people who experience psychosis are dangerous is an extremely harmful stereotype because psychotic people aren’t inherently dangerous just because they experience psychosis. There’s nothing about psychosis that automatically makes someone dangerous. I really think people associate psychosis with being dangerous because people aren’t really familiar with what psychosis really is, plus the way it’s portrayed in the media definitely contributes to the stigma.
The major problem is that people look at what they know about psychosis and just assume that it makes someone dangerous. The truth is that your friend or any other psychotic person could turn out to be the nicest person or people you’ve ever met! Yes, some psychotic people have the potential of being dangerous, but someone with literally any other mental illness could potentially turn out to be dangerous. Just because psychosis is portrayed as a “scary” illness doesn’t mean that it really is! We wouldn’t take one bad experience with someone who has depression and apply it to everyone who has depression by saying to avoid everyone with the disorder, so it’s not fair to do that to people who have psychosis.
It’s up to you to decide what to do, but I think you would benefit from at least giving your new friend a chance. If she gives you a reason to no longer trust you, then obviously you have to put your safety first, but she doesn’t sound like a dangerous person. Although that could obviously change, just like it could with anyone else, it sounds like she’s a really sweet person. You could miss out on a really great friend if you choose not to befriend her!
As for your friend and parents, you might suggest that they try to learn more about psychosis. Your parents might have reservations with you staying friends with this girl, but they would hopefully have a different opinion if they were to look into the disorder. Reminding them that you shouldn’t apply one negative experience to everyone with that disorder is also a good idea. Although they are just trying to look out for your safety, it would be very unfortunate to see them make an uneducated decision based off of the negative experiences your dad had with a psychotic person.