Hello, Cumin here, thanks for the response and as a neurodivergent person yeah that makes sense
anyway NEW QUESTION (I have lots of those take your time please be patient): how would an alpha nesting work normally? I know how it works for me rn, but I wonder how others may nest, and tbh I'm looking for ideas
hey Cumin! please don't worry at all about sending lots of asks, they make my day :)
Alpha nesting really depends on the person! I know of a lot of miscecanis alphas who nest just as enthusiastically as omegas, as well as alphas who nest to a lesser degree, and alphas who don't nest. My alpha likes to nest sometimes, but her definition of nest doesn't include nearly as many blankets and pillows as mine does :P i think that her favorite kind of nest are the ones that i make though, and when she cuddles up in them, she considers that nesting for her as well.
I can't speak for other miscecanis folks, but I headcanon that alphas (and betas) in a/b/o would nest for similar instinctual reasons as omegas, but they might have different behaviors around their nest. some ideas:
alphas tend to be territorial about their den, and if that alpha is a nester, they are likely to be even more territorial about that nest
alphas with an omega mate might be less likely to build a nest because omegas tend to be so proud of making nests for themself and their mate
omega nests might be pretty fluffy with lots of pillows and blankets and scented items-- I feel like alpha nests are less fluffy, but have even more scented items to remind them of their pack or their loved ones
alphas only nest in a place where they feel absolutely secure. omegas and betas keep private nests too, but they might be more likely to also nest on the couch or somewhere less private like that
if you think that an alpha's den smells strongly, wait till you smell their nest
bonus hc: beta nesters are known for nesting in unconventional places like under their desk, and they are the best at incorporating boxes, tables, shelves, etc in order to keep their favorite things within reach of the nest
if you're looking for nest building advice, check out these posts!
my post with a guide to building/writing nests
post about nesting materials
post about hot weather nesting
at the end of the day though, please don't worry about doing it wrong. there's literally no way to do it wrong, because nesting is about what feels good to you. there's no right way for an alpha to nest compared to an omega or a beta or anyone else. if you're a nester, then nest on :)