#mini writeup

When Lily decided to leak her sister Courtney's phone number and drop Sai's full legal name publicly, she crossed a line that most people don't even approach in their worst moments. But if you have been paying attention to her pattern of behavior, this escalation is not surprising.

The most terrifying part of her recent actions is that she either genuinely thinks she's in the right, or she just does not fucking care.

There is no third option here. We are witnessing a person who operates outside the bounds of normal social contracts. Most people have an internal braking system, a voice that says, "I'm angry, but doxxing my sibling or exposing a critic's legal identity is too far." Lily does not have that brake.

I’ve talked before about how she perceives conflict. To Lily, the mildest slight against her is a free pass to retaliate however she wants. In her mind, if you "wrong" her (by criticizing her content, disagreeing with her, or seemingly just existing in her space), you forfeit your right to privacy and safety. She views interpersonal conflict as a total war where the Geneva Convention doesn't apply.

She has said herself, on record, that she "doesn't believe in taking the high road." She wears that statement like a badge of honor, but we need to see it for what it is: a confession. She is telling us that she refuses to regulate her emotions or her actions. She believes that being "wronged" entitles her to be destructive.

When someone tells you they don't believe in the high road, and then proceeds to jeopardize the safety of their detractors, you have to believe them.

Happy International Asexuality Day!

To "celebrate", here's a clip from one of Lily's "Squadcast" episodes in which her wife Mikaila pours her heart out about the very common feeling among asexuals feeling like they're "broken" due to it...

Only for Lily to immediately swerve in with "Well, you enjoy sex with me, so..."

This clip infuriates me personally being asexual myself because even though yes asexuality is a spectrum and plenty of us do still enjoy sex with our partners, this is not what you say when your partner tells you they're asexual.

Don't think she caught this implication but she is implying here that if her partner consents to sex with her, the trauma is irrelevant and the asexuality is overridden by her sheer prowess.

And a lot of people think this way about us sex-favorable aces, by the way. Just because we are capable of enjoying ourselves, they think that we're faking it or that they can "cure" us of it. A sex-favorable asexual person might consent to intimacy out of love for their partner, or just flat-out enjoyment.

Asexuality is, in simplest terms, never thinking "yeah I'd hit that" when you look at someone. It is a lack of sexual attraction to other people. You can still experience romantic love, you can still enjoy sex in the right circumstances, but generally speaking, you just don't really look at someone and think "man I really wanna sleep with them so bad"

This might be the single most objectively true statement Lily Orchard has ever posted. Unfortunately, she spends the rest of the rant completely failing to understand why.

If you want a textbook example of a psychological concept called the "Missing Missing Reasons," her latest post is a masterclass. It's a phenomenon where a highly toxic individual claims to have absolutely no idea why everyone keeps abandoning them, while simultaneously demonstrating the exact hostile behavior that drove their victims away.

Lily spends multiple paragraphs whining that nobody has the "spine" to tell her things to her face, complaining about "cloak and dagger shit". But in the exact same breath, she refers to friends who politely step away for their own mental health as "cowardly fucks" and "spadey fucks".

Gee, I fucking wonder why no one wants to have a direct conversation with you, Lily.

When you have spent years establishing a baseline where any criticism, boundary-setting, or mild disagreement is met with a screaming meltdown or the immediate deployment of the Identity Shield, people are going to stop trying. They ghost you because you have made it psychologically and socially unsafe to confront you. Walking away in silence isn't "cowardice"; it's a necessary safety measure against a brick wall that screams back.

But the most telling part of this entire pity party is her admission of guilty knowledge. She states: "And like... I know I did something. The yellow flats [flags] have been there for a year. But I also know they'll never tell me until it winds up in a callout doc somewhere."

Read that again. She knows her behavior is bad. She knows she's been throwing flags for an entire year. But instead of doing the bare minimum amount of self-reflection to fix the behavior driving her friend away, she simply sits back, plays the victim, and waits for the inevitable "callout doc."

If you know your behavior is so consistently awful that it warrants a multi-page document of receipts, you don't need the victim to "tell you to your face." You already know exactly what you're doing.

I'm so glad you asked, hypothetical user!

So Lily likes to frame her critics as stalkers, transphobes, obsessive freaks and weirdos who do nothing but harass her for her nonexistent crimes. And her fans will eat it up on her word alone.

But if you do something like, oh I don't know, giving her money on Patreon just to screech at her in the comments...

Now those fans see it and think, "Oh wow! Lily was right all along! All of her stalkers are obsessed freaks!"

It doesn't matter if every word of it is true. You have to remember that Lily's fans see her as a victim of horrific abuse and an undeserved smear campaign. They genuinely believe in her innocence. They believe everything she tells them to.

Even if she lies and makes shit up with no claims anyway, you can still do your part by NOT DOING SHIT THAT JUST MAKES HER CLAIMS LOOK VALID.

If you give her something she can use to give her claims more credence, that's what I mean by "giving her ammo". You're doing her job for her. She doesn't even have to lie because you're handing her exactly what she needs to paint her critics as deranged obsessive stalkers on a silver fucking platter.

I bang this drum so hard because as I have said ad nauseum at this point, I was one of these fans. Lily posts screenshots in her discord server of someone who paid the $1 patreon fee just to scream at her, yeah we're gonna think that's unhinged, Lily's a victim, and we'll stay here where she keeps us safe instead of the SCAWY critic bubble.

This shit is what keeps people in her community.

This is one of the most reckless and actively dangerous things a person with a platform can do. What we are looking at here is someone with absolutely zero medical qualifications confidently diagnosing an anonymous stranger with severe trauma based on a fundamental misunderstanding of basic pediatric medicine.

To be absolutely clear, it is completely standard practice for children and adolescents to undress (usually down to their underwear or into a hospital gown) for annual physicals and school sports exams. Pediatricians require visual access to the body to check for a wide variety of developmental and health markers. This is how doctors check for scoliosis and spine curvature, examine the skin for irregular moles or signs of physical abuse, check for hernias in the groin area, and ensure puberty is progressing normally. Listening to the heart and lungs is also significantly more accurate without the interference of heavy clothing. The claim that medical exams requiring nudity are exclusively reserved for middle-aged prostate exams or pap smears is a staggering display of medical ignorance.

What elevates this from a foolish internet take to something genuinely harmful is the immediate escalation to diagnosing the asker with sexual assault. Casually telling a stranger that their routine childhood medical care was actually a traumatic patriarchal violation is deeply irresponsible. It manufactures trauma where none exists and induces severe anxiety, completely warping the asker's perception of their own history and potentially their trust in medical professionals going forward. It also severely trivializes the experiences of actual sexual assault survivors by conflating standard medical protocol with predatory behavior.

She views the entire world through a lens of extreme, malicious intent, assuming that anything she personally doesn't understand must be a systemic abuse of power. When an unqualified internet commentator uses that paranoid worldview to start dispensing medical and psychological diagnoses to vulnerable people in her inbox, she crosses the line from being a bad media critic to being an active threat to her audience's well-being.

I know that 90% of the people reading this blog already know the score. You’ve seen the logs, you’ve checked the sources, and you know how this game works.

But if there are people from Lily’s community reading this, maybe you’re hate-reading, maybe you’re looking for something to send an angry anon ask about, or maybe you’re just curious.

This is for you.

Lily posted a "screenshot" of Britt saying something horrific. No link. No archive.

And I am watching so many of you take it at face value. You are reblogging it, reacting to it, and condemning a person based on an image that I literally just proved takes 30 seconds to fake.

I need you to pause and use your critical thinking skills for five seconds.

I know she tells you not to look. I know she frames "fact-checking" as "stalking" and "verifying sources" as "obsession." She relies on you being too afraid or too "loyal" to open a new tab and check if the post actually exists.

But ask yourself: Why is she so terrified of you checking?

If Britt actually said that, there would be a link. There would be a Wayback Machine archive. There would be hundreds of other witnesses linking to the post.

But there isn't. There is just a fabricated screenshot from a woman who has a history of deleting her own tracks and rewriting history.

You are being lied to. It is a blatant, clumsy, low-effort lie. And every time you blindly reblog it without asking for the link, you are telling her that she doesn't even have to try to manipulate you anymore.

You deserve better than to be treated like you're stupid.

It doesn't matter what you want to call it. Fanart, satire, take your pick.

There's a reason we say "don't touch the poop". Don't interact with Lily directly, don't send her anonymous asks, don't make art of her even if it's unflattering, and don't make fanworks of her fanworks.

All you are accomplishing is proving her point about her critics. You are validating the bullshit she spews about us. Transphobic stalker-y weirdos who are obsessed with her. Even if you're none of those things, that's what it looks like and that's how she'll spin you.

And take it from me, someone who was once on the inside, that shit keeps us from leaving. One of us happens to see that, and we think "damn! Lily's right! Her stalkers are weirdos who are obsessed with her! I'd better stay here where it's safe!"

I don't think focusing on her media takes is inherently a bad thing. It's how people come to know her and get drawn to her in the first place. And some people don't want to get into the heavier stuff she's accused of because it's either more than some can handle, or in my own case, I've been fortunate enough in my life that I have no firsthand experience with topics such as CSA and the like. The media takes are easy and safe, and how she attracts most of her audience anyway.

However, I think there's also some merit in picking apart her media takes and interests, because they're sort of the window into her psyche, in a sense. It's well known by now that Stockholm parallels a lot of the things Courtney accuses her of doing. The way she views and processes the world is very apparent when you pick apart her media takes, and they tend to be a prime example of Lily telling on herself. Her media takes function as a sort of unfiltered reflection of her worldview. That’s why analyzing them has value.