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Hi, I recommend reading the Warning and Step 4 from this answer first.

I want you to keep in mind that everything else is irrelevant except your own perspective (thoughts, feelings, viewpoint etc) within your mind about everything and that's what we're working to change through these steps.

We're working with the above premise. I'm going to assume this ISN'T a memory that will trigger or traumatize you again if you bring it up. If it is, then just follow the steps in that linked ask or see a professional. Okay I've actually done this before. I basically made up my own way of rewriting the memory because it's all made up anyway so you can literally do it however you want, basically do it however it will allow your mind to click and see it as actual.

The mind is like a computer, you can install new programs and coding or change/delete existing ones - this is how I view the mind conceptually (or like a garden.. you can plant/replace flowers or remove weeds yadida). I'm just going to throw a bunch of suggestions on how to do this but remember its not the method that makes it work but you - so feel free to modify or even make up your own - it can be as silly and absurd or as serious and sacred as you want it to be, it's all imaginary anyway (but see it as actually changing your mind) including your current memory so it can work. It can take multiple repetitions for it to be completely neutralized so just keep at it with whatever method you prefer or even mix and match multiple.

There's one memory I wiped out (it wasn't really traumatic but it was really unpleasant and filled with regret and other negative emotions) and when I think back on it now, I sort of just see it as a "quantum" memory because it's not fixed - it's like nothing really happened but also anything and everything could have happened depending on how I choose to see it. It's just like.. an empty space of pure potential. If I wanted to, I could bring up the old memory to mind but I no longer saw it as objectively real which was the point - like it's just one version but there's infinite possible versions. (This was before I had the realisation that the world is just my dream within mind so nothing is objectively real anyway and once you realise this, there isn't really a need to go back and do this with any memory - but having a realisation of this is different to the mind "knowing" just from reading about it! So if you haven't yet had this realisation, then this practice is perfect (I like to call it mental alchemy hah, I made that up! Like my cloud burger technique, it's so made up and I love it)). Anyway, from the empty space, you can insert a new memory if you like. Just imagine it how you like and decide that's how it went.

Turn the memory into a comedy drama episode: Use ChatGPT to dramatize the memory into a reality tv confessional episode (this isn't good for very traumatic memories but works well for like the cringey awkward ones). The point is to make it so absurd you can't help but laugh and you naturally let go a bit (or entirely) this way because it gives you a different perception of the memory you held and helps you lighten up and not see it so seriously anymore. /// Just tell ChatGPT or Aster "Turn the below into a funny and absurd reality tv confessional sitcom episode." and follow it with a recount of the memory, typing it up is a bit of a chore but the laughs that follow are worth it

Scramble the memory by accepting multiple alternate memories as equally real and true: You can start with remembering/viewing/reading the real memory then repeat it by changing details and each time you read the new script, see it as reading a factual recount of what happened. Each time you could just be changing a small detail, whatever is incrementally enough for you to accept it as the now actual version but not too much that the mind would rebel. Keep going until the final version is how you like it. OR you could accept multiple versions as being simultaneously true.. they ALL exist and happened because everything exists all at once here and now.. well then which one is the REAL one...? But then actually none of them cos they can't ALL be true from Vanessa's point of view...? So when you get to this point you see none of it as actually true, you're left with empty space to fill with what you want the memory to be instead. My commentary: I did this by accident.. I kept telling ChatGPT to give me a rewritten memory (told it what happened then asked it to rewrite it to take out the unpleasant parts) but it kept getting the story wrong - it kept the unpleasant parts for most of the versions and I kept getting annoyed and frustrated like NO that's not how it goes!! And I read through like 30 wrong versions of how it happened which was so mentally tiring that by the end of it the mind was so scrambled from all those different versions one after the other that nothing stuck as the objective one anymore lol. But I don't recommend asking ChatGPT to write it for you like I tried, if you go ahead anyway you do so at your own peril... Though it might be funny...? Who knows. But yeah you can also just do it in your mind's eye directly or write the memory script out yourself although this can get tedious/tiresome

Mentally relive the memory and then visually see it become more and more hazy or become white noise or like you're the one that's neutralizing the memory thoughts itself from the mind: This is similar to Step 4 from that linked answer, you're essentially scrambling the "data" to make it obsolete or wiping/deleting it. Do it like you're commanding the mind to perform this task for you much like entering a command into a terminal (it might not work at first but if you trust that you can harness your mind to work for you, it will)

Write a personal diary or journal entry of what happened the way you prefer it as if it really happened and then read it as the factual recount of what happened

Bonus:

For #2 and #3, I think it will work even better if for some of the rewrites (keep some of them plausible but all equally real and true), you turn it into something illogical that doesn't fit the mind's "matrix" while looking at it as actual and real, just like with the cloud burger technique (this works because everything is just a thought! So you can use thought to erase or overwrite thought!). You could slowly add illogical, weird, absurd, silly elements while seeing it as equally true and real (e.g. turn someone you had conflict with into a giant pikachu in your memory or something, I dunno. Get creative! Have fun). Make it funny cos laughing helps you see it as unserious. Do this enough times and the memory really becomes like neutral goo. And when this happens, it's very easy to discard, replace or simply ignore 😸

If you already have a symbol or object that you associate with cleansing, deleting or anything, use that to "clean" up the memory. Like a vacuum cleaner that you use to visually clean up the memory scene or whatever lol. It all can work because it's all within the mind - it's all imaginary, it's all thought!

Of course, if any negative or undesirable emotions come up, just release as they come up then continue on

You can even ask Aster or ChatGPT for ideas on how to do this if the above ideas don't feel right or just straight up create your own. Honestly, writing this out was a little weird cos I literally made up these techniques for myself hahaha. I guess that's what manifesting and reality shifting techniques are too, huh? They're all made up and it's just a matter of whether it clicks with your mind or not.

Hey love, I'm sorry that happened to you. I get where you're coming from, I (Vanessa) had to deal with something similar (although you haven't explicitly mentioned what it is, I get the gist) and simply ignoring it didn't help at all. I'll share what helped me let it go for good. The end goal is to not identify with it, but the ways there are many. If you're struggling and seeing it as real, ignoring it is just going to keep it alive through resistance and this path isn't about spiritual bypass at all.

When you do these steps, I want you to keep in mind that everything else is irrelevant except your own perspective (thoughts, feelings, viewpoint etc) within your mind about everything and that's what we're working to change through these steps. So don't bring anything into consideration like your parents or the predator, this is all about giving yourself freedom from what's been haunting you.

First, rest and give some TLC to your body & nervous system, you can do it any way that you like, yin yoga, yoga nidra, breathing exercises, calming rituals etc. After trauma, the nervous system can get stuck in fight or flight which is just a manifestation of feeling threatened and unsafe. If you can sense this at all, then in addition to these exercises, consider doing this as well: "you can do a practice where you allow yourself to feel safe and know that you are safe (you can think of it as giving yourself safety and security if it helps). You can do it however it feels good to you: imagination, thoughts, affirmations, meditation - whatever feels good. See yourself having safety and security. Do it for as long as you want until you feel okay." //This is from an old answer I gave previously

Second, I want you to release all the emotions (including fear) you have about the event. I'm not asking you to relive the memory, but the first piece of freedom comes from just releasing all the pent up emotions you have about it. Take your time with this and be gentle and patient. I have a guide here of how I normally do it but it's just one example of how this can be done, you can do it any way that helps you although I find releasing to be the most direct way.

Third, start to gently detach from all association with the trauma without any pressure or force (this should be easier after you release the initial emotions). As much as it was traumatic and painful, now it only exists in the mind, it's not a present threat you have to deal with (I found this thought comforting when I was releasing it). You don't have to go straight to not owning it at all but start to slowly detach and distance yourself from it - not by pushing it away but by loosening your grip on it and remind yourself you are not defined by this if you choose not to let it define you. You're still here now.

Warning: I need to put a disclaimer here of sorts, what I did below was accessible to me and it didn't cause any retraumatization and I think it was possible because by that point I had understood on a deep level that it was all in my mind and that's the level I was working to change, I wasn't dealing with something objectively real in front of me. You know yourself best, if it's a possibility that you'll be triggered by the next step and you think it will set you back then I highly recommend you see a professional (a good hypnotherapist would be perfect for this) for this part.

Fourth, this is where it gets to the heart of the situation, we're going into the mind to do a memory rewrite. The gist of this technique (I like to call it mental alchemy lol) is the same as what I wrote here. Essentially what I did was I meditated for a bit to clear and calm the mind as well as relax the body, then I went back to the memory where it happened as though I was actually travelling back in time to an old dream, but basically to the moment before it happened and saw it play out where things went normally and nothing in particular happened and I viewed it all neutrally as a separate uninvolved observer outside Vanessa. Sometimes I'd switch viewpoints into being Vanessa and feel what she felt during this normal event, so basically just feeling neutral. I did this multiple times until I could go back to this memory and view it without feeling anything and I viewed this memory as objectively "canon", as what actually happened - everything else was irrelevant. If you can't do this, then instead of that I want you to imagine you have a magical eraser that erases anything you want and then use it to visually (and actually) scrub and erase the predator (and anything else that's triggering) from your mind. While you're doing this step, if any negative emotions come up, do the release exercise from step 2 as they come up then keep going (or take breaks, that's fine too). Just do the step over and over until you genuinely don't feel anything towards the event or predator, until you see them as unreal and irrelevant, not worth bothering with, until you feel free from it.

The point is to transmute and neutralize all negative emotions and traumatic energy & thoughts surrounding the event then rewrite the narrative however you want. Remember you're not trying to change anything that's objectively real (so don't see it as having to change some event), but what's within your mind so let this be the focus and make everything else irrelevant. When you do these practices, truly see it as what you're imagining is actually happening, you really ARE erasing and rewriting it, don't care about externals at all - it's irrelevant. This is essentially what hypnotherapy can do as well, it's easier to revisit traumatic memories when you're under hypnosis. I recommend meditating a bit for this and relaxing, maybe even let the mind become a little hazy like it does when you're drowsy as this will make it feel more dreamlike and less triggering.

Fifth, recognise that every dream character is only acting out according to their own conditioning and programming and it's not actually personal even though it appears so to the ego/Vanessa. Dismantle any importance you've placed on their actions or opinions over what happened any way you can by changing your perspective on them, basically get to a point where you see them as uninvolved and irrelevant. The point is to mentally detach from all the other involved characters and no longer put any weight or meaning in them over you, to no longer care about their opinions or allow yourself to be kept bondage by their thoughts and actions about you. Like so what, they don't get to decide who or what you are, only you do. If you find yourself caring and getting emotional again over them or what happened, just release again and repeat whichever steps are relevant to detach. Get to a point where you feel neutral and indifferent about it all and can ignore anything contradictory while being unaffected if it pops up (either externally or mentally).

Just keep doing it until you no longer need to. Take your time with each step, don't rush and do it genuinely. Feel free to keep it fluid too, you don't have to follow the order strictly.

Edit: bonus step but after all that (and only after you've done all the above steps fully first), if it feels right or you want to do this, then erase the predator's entire existence from your mind and see it as objectively real. See that they were never part of your world. Even if externals don't follow, doesn't matter because you've decided this and that's what's true and anything that appears otherwise is just an illusion and therefore irrelevant.

I understand, I was like you a few months ago. There were some painful things that no matter how much I tried to tell myself it wasn't real, it just had too much of an emotional charge and imprint to let go of and detach from. This is where I felt I had to deviate from 4dbarbie and find my own way to address this - ignoring it didn't feel right and kept me stuck. I really recommend you read this post first of all which describes what I did to let go of them. And here's an exercise you can do for releasing those (so long it's not something that will retraumatize you if you bring it up, if this is the case, I highly recommend going to a therapist for help for these):

Find a nice quiet private space where you are free to be as emotional as you can be. You can do this exercise while sitting or even lying down, whatever feels comfortable.

Deliberately think of whatever hurts or bothers you - it's okay, you're doing this to let go of them for good and be free. They aren't here anymore. It's not in the present anymore.

(this can be done during/after step 4 or 5 if you feel unable to accept it at the start, do what feels right) Accept what has happened. Accept there's nothing you can do to change what happened and let go of wanting to change anything. It is what it is. All you can choose now is to be free of it and let it go for good. Accept whoever/whatever hurt you as they are. If you have any grievances/regrets/grudges or such, choose to let it go and forgive everything including yourself (I highly recommend you read this post for why this is helpful as it's very relevant to your question too). Accept yourself as you were then and are now. Accept everything as it is.

Notice the thoughts, emotions and sensations that come up - don't deny or resist them, let them come up and let them be. You can cry or get angry, it's okay. Accept them all without identifying with them, it's just old stuff coming up to be released. Just keep your awareness on those sensations and watch them.

Imagine there's a window from your body where you feel the emotions/pain/resistance/sensations and that you're inviting and allowing them to leave - you don't need to force it to leave, it will leave or dissolve on its own as you continue watching it and letting everything be. You can imagine it all leaving in coloured smoke if you'd like, whatever colour feels appropriate and comes to mind. It's just energy leaving your body. (I did this in therapy a few years ago and it actually helped me release some major things that I hadn't been able to do so any other way)

Keep doing this until it's all gone and you feel nothing when you think of whatever was bothering you, what's left is peace :)

It's not necessary to do this for every single thing, just what you feel unable to let go of no matter how hard you try. At some point you'll find a lot of peace and quiet inside (this will also help quiet the mind a lot) and then you'll intuitively know when you're ready to completely detach from everything.

I just finished reading a pdf that goes into details on Lester's experience with dropping limitations and how he did it within those 3 months. And he basically talked about how some thoughts would take some time to drop and he would basically just keep releasing those until they were fully gone. Reading that helped me realize that maybe I am doing this right and I just need to keep releasing the desire and it will soon completely go. I have had this desire for almost 7 years now so i guess my attachment to it might be too strong and so that it why it's not going away in one session?

But anyways your inputs are always appreciated so if there is anything you want to let me know about or help me with, like maybe the conclusions i came to aren't fully correct, you can.

It does look like you're releasing correctly. However, as I've reiterated in many of my previous posts/answers now, releasing is just one form of letting go of ego, not the only one. I've found it best not to get too fixated on sticking to the one method and try to make everything fit into it by necessarily applying it to absolutely everything, it's better to assess each limitation on a case by case basis, be flexible and then do what feels right intuitively. It may be that releasing is not the best way to go about it for this particular desire. (But yes, for certain thoughts that are deeply rooted, it can take more than one session to completely release. It's best not to have expectations on how long it takes to release something)

Here are some other forms of letting go of ego you could explore if it resonates with you.

Identify the causative thoughts for why you don't have clear skin (for your example) and then drop them.

If we want a perfect body and we don’t have a perfect body, it means that we don’t have the conviction that we can make the body perfect. It means we are subconsciously holding in our mind a consciousness of an imperfect body. The body is an exact copy of the mind, the body being only our consciousness projected outwardly. We must change our subconscious thinking until we subconsciously have the conviction that our body is perfect. That will do it. - Lester Levenson, The Keys to the Ultimate Freedom

This follows the principle of taking responsibility for everything that happens to you, including the body and all circumstances. The body is simply a manifestation of your thoughts. For example, when people get sick, it's really that they are doing it to themselves (most often it's unconscious) as a result of various thoughts they had previously that became a habit and mindset. Taking Lester as an example, he found out that his health issues were a result of wanting love and approval from the world, wanting to change things in the world and fearing death itself. For past me who had health challenges, I realized I was used to thinking as the victim and believed that I needed to be in a state that garnered pity (such as being sick) in order to be safe and perceived as non-threatening and this naturally manifested eventually in health issues because I wanted to be safe and felt I wasn't! In other examples Lester has said, he has mentioned that skin rashes are really manifestations of mental irritations or conflicts that have now surfaced and to correct this is to identify what it is and then resolve it (undo it, see it isn't true, drop it). I've also realized that everything on the body are quite literally just thoughts that have taken form and are being expressed on the body (including suppressed emotions which is why releasing is important!) - if the body is not in a state of harmony, then the mind is not either because all comes from the mind. Obviously all limitations are silly to hold onto once you identify what they are and they should be dropped. These are just examples and your own thoughts that manifested into skin that you don't prefer won't necessarily be the same as these.

2. Identify why this particular desire exists. What does it symbolize to you? Beauty? Freedom? Purity? Health? All of the above or something else? Be honest with yourself and see what it represents to you. This is the lack that you perceive, this is what you think you don't have but in fact as infinite beings we never lack anything, the lack and limitations are just illusions, old programming & conditioning we once believed and accepted that are now operating automatically in the background but it isn't true. Then can you see how that lack isn't true after identifying it (feel free to reason it out and use logic to see how it is untrue)? If not, apply the exercise detailed here to what you perceive you lack (replace love with whatever it is you identified).

Once this core lack has been properly addressed and dissolved, you could see yourself having the symbol too (in whatever way suits you) but I think it's important not to attribute fulfillment or happiness to these externals. See first that it is all coming from within you then once you've set that right, you can have the symbol too if you want - so long you understand it's only a symbol and you aren't being dependent on it for fulfilling perceived lack.

You could try let go of it in a 4 step process as I've detailed in the second part of this ask here. I recommend doing each step completely and mindfully before moving onto the next rather than rush through them and then have to repeat the whole thing again.

Release any emotions and feelings attached to the limitation that is to be dropped by bringing it to mind and allowing them to be. You can use this method as a guide and modify it how you feel is best

Investigate within and identify the causative thoughts for the limitation then drop them

Identify what the core essence(s) are that you believe you lack (that this limitation represents or what you want this symbol to fulfill) and then either drop the belief of lack or allow yourself to see, feel and know that you are complete, whole and fulfilled (using whatever method feels right).

(Optional) See yourself having the symbol if you want - so long you understand it's only a symbol and aren't dependent on it for fulfilling perceived lack.

In all of this, the attitude is not to try to get rid of or fix something that is "wrong". Apply lots of love, kindness, compassion, understanding and patience. Don't fight the dream - the more you resist, the more it persists but what you look at and accept is given the opportunity to be released and dissolved. Accept everything and see them as neutral, even the parts that you don't prefer. Allow everything to be as it is. Then allow yourself to change your mind and think differently in ways that you prefer, without trying to make anything happen in the world. As Neville said "Indifference is the knife that severs. Feeling is the tie that binds."