#mickey talks

i think some people actually don’t realize something really important which is that for a lot of subs and bottoms, there actually is a boundary between being whiny and cute and embarrassed versus actually being overwhelmed and not wanting to go further. i think this comes from the toxic heteronormative / misogynistic idea that even if someone says no, they actually want it. to give a personal example, i know that if my partner was teasing me a lot, some days it’d put me in the mood, but other days it might be too much and i’d wrap myself under blankets bc i’d be super embarrassed and overwhelmed, not necessarily in the bad way, but in the sense that if the teasing did continue, then it would be too much. that’s not an invitation for my partner to lift the blanket or try to tease me into saying i actually want something. so where is the line, then? how do you know? the answer is to always ask. even within established relationships, it is crucial that consent be a checkpoint and addressed in every situation, sexual or not. or pre-negotiated in the idea of “yes until no” or “no until yes.” i would much rather my partner tease me, have me get embarrassed, and then ask “Too much?” And if I answer in the affirmative, just come over and smile and cuddle me instead. Normalize consent even non-sexually, and especially sexually.

Yes, Ian isn't so stupid to do coming-out in front of the whole homophobe family. Or make a wrong spelling tattoo *😩* Or throw Cartel risking to be killed. But Ian is the one saved me, the one pushes me to do things better, to want better things for me, he helped me with the people hates us. He's the best bestfriend, husband, co-worker. And this is the look of the people that loves me less🤨

Why doesn't Tumblr notify me of submissions!

Because @ladyred797 apparently submitted a Supercorp one-shot based on the love of my life aka Noodella and