#mental framing

Frame Bound vs Reality Bound My wife works with families with children with disabilities and one of the things I learned from her is how to ask children to do something.

Narrow Framers #SaturdayThoughts I like to write about the irrational nature of human thinking because it reminds me that I don't have all the answers figured out, and it reminds me that I often make decisions that feel like the best decision in the moment, but likely isn't the best decision if I were to step back to be more considerate.

Ideomotor Effect I grew up playing basketball and one thing coaches always tell players is that they have to have confidence when they shoot the ball.

I make attempts to accept culpability for my actions, improving my ability to recognize my faults. But cannot deny forces that have shaped and cratered who I am or my life. Its said either you’re a victim or a survivor, I say we are both. I survived but am still reeling and those memories, the pain and its impact remains what comprises victimhood. And admitting to both these elements does not make me half weak, but wholly honest, willing to understand myself, how what happened impacts who I am, my livelihood and means I’m brave (its not just healing, being wonder woman but also acknowledging the fallout -- the pain).