#mcfc2025

(this isn’t an ode. An ode is a poem and I’m horrendous at poetry. I just feel like titling things as odes makes me sound like Shakespeare lol)

One thing I know about grief from personal experience is that it’s not something you “get over.” It’s something that you have to move through. You see, when you grieve someone, you are also simultaneously grieving yourself.

You’re grieving the version of yourself that died along with them. A version of you that existed in a world in which that person is still here and you’re grieving that version of you because you’re never going to be that person again. So you’re left with a new you, a you that had to deal with the pain left behind.

In moments like this, it’s important to not push yourself to move past the pain or to get over it. I think our current society has lost the art of leaning on those around them and those who share their emotions and pain, and unfortunately this is the instance that brought the football community together again.

I know it’s something that we commonly say, so it seems that it may have lost its meaning, but it’s important to remember that our slogan, our song, is here for a reason.

You Never Walk Alone.

I think everyone needs to be reminded of that regardless of whether you’re a Liverpool fan or not and take it very literally.

I guess what I mean to say is that I don’t think you should be afraid to ask for help.

Don’t think that your grief isn’t valid (I’ve seen many people suggest that fans are dramatic for being this torn up about a footballer aka someone we did not know on a personal basis).

Don’t be afraid to ask for comfort and for someone or some people to lean on through your processing of grief because none of us are meant to walk through this alone—this journey of grief, this journey of life. None of it is meant to be dealt with by oneself.

I think we need to be reminded of one more thing as well:

At the end of the storm, there's a golden sky.

This will get easier, but some moments will be unbearable. Grief is far from linear, some days you will think you’re past it and some days you will mourn harder than the how you did when the incident happened, but what matters is that you don’t keep these feelings to yourself.