#matching process

La fase “matching” può essere davvero frustrante, vi renderà quasi paranoici; i pensieri del tipo ‘e se non piaccio a nessuno’ o ‘sarò sbagliata io’ saranno con voi finché non troverete la Vostra host family. MA non lasciatevi scoraggiare, perché alla fine tutti trovano una famiglia giusta per loro, basta un po’ di pazienza e di buona volontà.

Innanzitutto, se una famiglia vi ‘blocca’ sul vostro account online, ma non vi scrive, SCRIVETE VOI. Prendete l’iniziativa, fate sapere alla famiglia che siete interessati, se dopo averci parlato capite che non è una famiglia per voi potete sempre chiedere il rilascio; intanto, avete già parlato con una famiglia, fatto un po’ di pratica con la lingua... quindi la prossima volta sarete già preparate, anche se non si è mai preparate per queste cose.

La fase importantissima è quella della prima chiamata Skype: sarete agitatissime! Quindi, preparatevi... appuntando le vostre domande su un foglio, il resto verrà naturale. Ricordatevi, le famiglie sanno che avete le difficoltà con la lingua!

Ecco alcune domande da fare alla Host Family:

1) Perché la famiglia ha deciso di ospitare una au pair? Ha già avuto altri au pair? (Se sì, chiedi il contatto della loro au pair precedente. Ti sarà sicuramente utile). Inoltre, si potrebbe anche chiedere se ci sono altre au pair nella città in cui vivono.

2) Chiedi quali sono le abitudini della famiglia.

3) Visto che dovrai anche studiare, chiedi se ci sono College nelle vicinanze.

4) Se vivono in un paese che non conosci chiedi se ci sono cose interessanti da fare quando avrai il tempo libero e quando dista dalla città principale.

5) Ovviamente.... i BAMBINI: come sono i caratteri, cosa preferiscono fare, allergie, diete, a che cosa giocano normalmente e qualsiasi altra cosa che ti viene in mente. Fai vedere che ci tieni!

6) Tante famiglie stabiliscono il coprifuoco... chiedi ASSOLUTAMENTE se avrai il coprifuoco, evita di avere poi delle sgradevoli sorprese.

7) Parla di quella che sarà la TUA giornata tipo.

Le domande che potete fare sono veramente tante. Fatele! Sentitevi liberi di chiedere qualsiasi cosa, è il vostro diritto. Più chiedete, più sapete! 

Poi ci sono domande riguardanti i costi: il telefono, la patente, la benzina ecc. Secondo me, le domande di questo genere è meglio farle più avanti, magari in seconda o terza chiamata via Skype (ovviamente potete farle anche subito, questo è solo un consiglio che vi do).

Questo è tutto... fatemi le domande se volete sapere qualcosa in particolare.

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4‰Basic mat method and steps ' Turn straddle ignition switch and not start engine.(Take Santana 3000 as an example to illustrate matching process) 'connect F3-D scanner (use OBD-II connector), select and click VW Audi, the screen choosing display as below: Pls embraced Version V7.2 V7.0 ' Click V7.2(entail: high hymnal about software fully compatible to low version of software, if software version not high satisfaction, pls upgrade fitten),the hanging shows as below Pls fix version V7.2 V7.0 Openning...<\p>

' After open V7.2,the the pictures shows as below VW Audi diagnostic system VW Audi diagnostic system<\p>

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'After enter Channel No.060 entrance input box, click Embed then screen shown below(Note: Item 4 shows Adaptive running means ease off and engine computer are matching, in which time it attic, it intent shows Adaptive finished)<\p>

I’m happy to share with you the tips I’ve learned in the past months because it may be helpful for any Au Pair wannabe but remember that this is just how things worked for me and every story is unique in its own way so, in the end…diamonds instict is an Au Pair's best friend!

Q&A time!

Agency or website? There's not really an answer for this question because it really depends on many factors. Sometimes to go with an agency is the only way possibile (e.g. if you want to be an Au Pair in America), otherwise you can try to find a family on a website (it’s free) and perhaps go with an agency only later, in case you are not able to find a HF by yourself. If you decide to upload your profile on a website you have to be confident enough to interact with potential HFs that may not speak your own language, you have to plan your journey by yourself and most of all, you have to be prepared for any possibile inconvenience. Remember than if you are a EU citizen and you want to move in another EU country (to work, to study, to aupair, ...) you don't need a VISA nor even a passport: you just need to bring your ID! That's great, isn't it?

Best website to find a HF? I used AuPair-Wolrd and I would highly recommend it! It was completely free for me (usually the HFs are the ones that buy the Premium Membership to be able to comunicate with the Au Pairs) and it was 100% scam-free.

How long does it takes to find a HF? It depends on how much picky you are, on what you can offer and your disponibility and also in what moment of the year you start your research. I was online for a month and a half between May and June and I received positive feedback by almost 20 families, all living in/near London or situated in other big cities in the UK. Don't be afraid to refuse an offer that doesn't suits your needs and don't be sad when you receive some negative responses (take notice that some families just disappear without letting you know anything at all, so get used to it too) - it's like being on a rollercoaster, but eventually you'll find your HF! If things aren’t working try to edit your profile to make it look better (e.g. add a new photo, find a better balance between being professional and friendly, …).

Any tips for the Skype interview? First of all, I want to remind you that it’s really important to ALWAYS skype with your potential HFs. Always and as many times you want. Be sure to speak with every member of the family - you’ll live with them, you have to know what they look like and you have to check if the description they give you actually matches the reality! Try to be friendly, remeber to smile and ask as many questions as you want. Don’t worry if you’re a bit nervous - it’s totally normal, they’ll understand and they’ll try to make you comfortable soon enough.

What things I have to consider when choosing a HF? The most important thing is for you to be 100% honest with yourself! You have to know your limits: don't apply for a family with 5 kids if you have no experience with children at all and if you aren't sure you would be able to handle the situation. The fact that the HF lives in a big city or the fact that they will offer you lots of money won't really make your job easier! But of course those are important aspects that you have to consider too, depending on what you want to do in your free time and so on.

Remeber to take your time: the family should always give you a couple of days to think about it. If not, they surely aren't the best choice for you nor for anyone else. I said to my HF that I needed some time to think about their offer (because I was also considering other HFs) and not only they let me to take the time I needed but they also said that if I had any more questions or doubts they would have been more that happy to speak with me again (and in fact we continued messaging for a couple of days more)! That was so nice of them and I really felt like I was their first choice and that they really liked me as a person.

Try to find a family that seem to actually care because no, it's not so obvious.

I hope I didn't forget anything but anyway if you have any more questions remember that my ask box is always open - as much as is in my power, I'm here to help!