#lovewithoutmasking

If you’ve ever left a conversation wondering, “Wait… were they flirting?” — this book is for you. If you’ve ever stared at your phone for 40 minutes trying to word a simple “hey,” If you’ve been ghosted after being totally honest and still blamed yourself, If you’ve ever thought, “I’m bad at this. Is it me?” — it’s not just you. You’re not broken. You’re just neurodivergent. And the dating world? It wasn’t designed for brains like ours. This book started with a button. Maybe you saw it—on Amazon, Etsy, Reddit, or passed around at Wasteland Weekend and other events. A simple patch or pin with the words: “Bad at Flirting – Please Be Blunt” I made it as a joke. A coping tool. A quiet plea. I didn’t expect it to blow up. I didn’t expect people to trade me anything they had just to wear that truth out loud. I didn’t expect hundreds of people to say, “Oh my god, same.” But they did. And I realized something: we’re out here. Autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, neuro-spicy, trauma-laced, literal-minded humans—struggling to find love in a world full of unspoken rules, vague signals, and weird social rituals no one ever explained. So I wrote the book I wish I’d had.