It’s really imposible to love and not to be in pain because both come as a package. We’re only humans and we are capable of being hurt. Love, romantically speaking or even towards your family and friends is always accompanied by getting hurt. If someone you love can’t be able to fulfill what he/she is supposed to do, rejected you, no longer loves you or just simply dont want you in their lives, its definitely painful, isn’t it? But do you already ask yourself if you got hurt because of love or its just because of your ego? If you are hurting because he/she made you believe of something which is not true, did not respect you as person, and you seem to think that he/she looks at you as if you are gullible and can be easily fooled. Youre feeling pity to your own self which in effect destroys your ego or self esteem. On the other hand, if you simply got hurt because of the fact that he/she cant love you back or the person found someone another and doesnt love you anymore, then that’s pain for love. I remember a movie where the broken-hearted guy told his friend that their breakup is more painful to his ego. He said that it hurts like 60-40. I guess people tend to experienced to feel a 60-40 breakdown of pain when letting go of someone. Can be in favor for love or vice versa. Personally, I felt the same way too before. 60% for love and 40% for ego. Of course its painful to know that the person whom you trusted your whole life is not really true to you. He/she is not prioritizing you, does not care with your feelings and acts as if not committed. All of his/her actions arent considering you.
However, its even more painful to know that your partner doesnt have the love for you anymore. The person who loved/cared for you before is already gone.
People who got hurt because their ego is being destroyed, are more angry towards the actions made by their partners. They could not swallow their pride and just forgive easily since it’s their name that was damaged. In the case of those who got hurt because of love, they are more in pain due to their partner falling out of love or cant really return the love they want which is something thats really hard to accept. It’s like half of you died.
When you are in a relationship, its not really all about love, everyone has an ego to protect also. Ego is essential for us to be confident and be proud of ourselves thats why it hurts as well if its being criticized. But at the end of the day, if it’s really love, it will always cross the limits.
The Gentlewhiz 07|19|16