i need some advice! i think i'm gay but i'm not sure... how am i supposed to know? what made you realize you were gay?
Tara: For me, it was pretty easy. I never had crushes on boys like all the other girls in my classes did. I would catch myself fantasizing about kissing women – picture little 13-year-old me, daydreaming about Agent Scully! I figured out pretty quickly that I had no interest in men and could only picture myself with another woman. But I don’t think that’s common. It’s hard to feel 100% sure of something, especially when you’re young and inexperienced, but I feel comfortable identifying as a lesbian.
Willow: I think I finally realized when we did this one spell together – the passage to the Nether Realm. It’s kind of like accessing the astral plane, so I needed Tara to act as an anchor for my astral self or I could’ve been lost outside of my physical body. It was… intimate. And I knew that had a lot to do with Tara. I’d been feeling things for her that I wasn’t sure how to place, at first. The spell… it was so, erm, charged that afterward there was little doubt in my mind about what those feelings actually meant.
Tara: Anon, you don’t have to decide right now, or box yourself into an identity that doesn’t feel right! You can identity as gay or bi or queer or anything you want, and you can change your mind at any time. Sexuality can be fluid, and terminology changes pretty quickly. Don’t stress about defining yourself – just get out there and find someone who loves you exactly as you are.
Willow: You’re so inspiring, baby!
