#localcatyaps

gynecological healthcare is NOTORIOUSLY bad, underresearched and exclusionist.

and dont tell me its because I'm trans, i am a man and they dont want me in these spaces on the basis of me being a MAN. men require this healthcare too, full stop. i belong in these spaces while being a man. i deserve to be safe in the gynecologists office while being a man. i deserve to be acknowledged as a man while getting the healthcare i require.

"people see you as a man so you dont experience misogyny"

until i require reproductive healthcare, where I'm either actively excluded for being a man, or I'm judged and experience misogyny due to my proximity to masculinity and not "woman-ing" correctly. where I'm assumed to be a woman because this healthcare is literally known as "women's care" and i must be some disgusting degenerate because of how i look, vagina or not.

otherpaw reminds me alot of gender nonconformity. i think, as a trans man, anyone should be able to express themselves in gender presentation as they like. femininity, androgyny, masculinity (etc) without it directly dictating your gender identity. GNC does not make you transgender. right? makes sense. in a similar sense, presenting as a nonhuman animal without being a therian is fine. doing quads, wearing gear, making moodboards, collecting things related to that species. these things should be completely normal. the same way gender nonconformity should be completely normal.

anyway. otherpaw, copinglink, pet regressors too. anyone who feels their alterhumanity is in any way voluntary.

oh yeah what possible motivation could a transmasc have when relating to a character viscerally insecure and disgusted by their own femininity.....

do these people hear themselves?

*looks inside*

>they mean someone with an age play kink

?????????????

seriously what do y'all think the PLAY stands for? it's, believe it or not, short for ROLEplay. because there are no minors involved, nobody here is looking at real life children. this is about ADULTS ROLEPLAYING. ADULTS ENGAGING IN "CHILDISH" ACTIONS. how shocking! how taboo! should we call the church??? they like having sex while wearing diapers and sucking on a pacifier? should we alarm the military? get them raided or something?

deadass I'm afraid I don't give a shit if no real lives are being harmed. and you are not anyones therapist nor a specialist. you cannot tell someone what is and isn't an appropriate coping mechanism for them. your opinion is solely based on personal disgust disguised as compassion, disguised as a "save the children", disguised as concern for a strangers health

and yes this is a queer issue. because kink and queer communities have been and always will be intertwined. the right to sexual freedom includes letting adults have weird sex you might not understand. that's how homosexuality was viewed in the past too, and we're not just gonna forget that. we're not gonna pretend it's a thing of the past when we still get called deviant faggots. I'm not gonna sit here and throw people under the bus for sexual acts that harm no one and have nothing to do with me. letting purely subjective disgust rule your morals kills people. nobody is telling you to like it, to do it. but to open your fucking eyes to the material reality that this isn't just about you. forever do i rather stand with the ddlg, ddlb, abdl, cubs and more than protect the feelings of someone widely outside of and not understanding of kink spaces and is refusing to extend any kind of empathy. you dont understand because you dont go here, and you're so ashamed of sex you refuse to even look from the outside in.

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marginalized men exist

marginalized men are opressed on the basis of being marginalized MEN too

having your masculinity questioned, stripped away from you, being told you're not "man enough", being excluded from a safe space because you are deemed unsafe as a man

are all "androphobia". "misandry". sexism. whatever you want to call it.

those who typically benefit can very easily become victims within hierarchy themselves

did we forget? you are one unlucky day away from becoming disabled. anything could potentially trigger a mental health episode. anyone could judge you negatively on the street and put you in immediate danger.

these things happen to men aswell, and yes, this strips you of a privilege you may have once had.

disabled men are not taken more serious

men of colour are not killed less

GNC men are not "correctively" raped less

fat men are not shamed less

mentally ill men are not abused less

that man at the bar is not statistically more likely to kill you than the woman serving you drinks.

abusers. will. abuse.

we need to stop screaming numbers numbers numbers, we need to stop the "one is worse than the other", we need to think more nuanced than that and include ALL victims of bigoted violence in our conversations

we CANNOT put these identies in a neat little list from most to least privileged group

life is so much more complicated than "that man MUST be having a better life than me for being a man".

stop thinking in black and white

stop thinking its us vs them

thats what they want. gender war. infighting.

divide.

organize. educate. stand in solidarity.

don't just uplift men. don't just uplift women. dont just uplift enbies.

Uplift the people who need a voice. uplift the people you love. uplift your local community.

every one, in every height and every size and every skin colour. and every gender.

"men" is not the enemy. masculinity is not a target. manhood is not evil.

this is a very tumblr problem when it comes to how we're treating our transmascs and men.

but we have to admit the gendered divide plaguing our society has been a problem for centuries. the answer is not pointing fingers at those who benefit passively. it's not shifting structural blame onto a singular gender.

in this household we say;

Eat the rich

All cops are bastards

sex work is real work

black lives matter

stop asian hate

protect trans kids

free palestine

slava ukraini

I'm scared i will be seen as that mentally ill creep who dares cross your path, my existence an insult to your eyes. if i have a panic attack or meltdown infront of the wrong person, that cops will be called. now, in my country and being white i have less to worry about as they don't carry here. that doesn't mean I won't be seen as a potential danger or druggie. and i think any autistic person on earth can explain to you why being touched at all would make things so much worse. I've been threatened with ambulances, with humiliation and public judgement, my phobia blatantly used against me.

i have to watch my behavior MORE than i did passing as a woman, a weird one at that. worst was neglect and infantilisation (which are traumatizing in their own right). now i have to worry about being "too friendly" towards children, being in "too close proximity" to women, about showing my emotions at all. i wear my heart on my sleeve and no, I'm not seen as a sweetheart or himbo, I'm seen as a manic creep for laughing too loud, for hugging my friends, for talking too loudly, for expressing body language too much. it's seen as weird, unusual, new. and that equates to scary and dangerous in our current climate.

i will keep being myself, unapologetically, because i am incapable of masking. we also have to acknowledge in how much danger this can put me. i am disabled and vulnerable, not a "big scary man", as angry as my facial expression supposedly looks. (maybe stop taking them so fucking personal you assholes, my face has nothing to do with you /nbh)