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#ReadersQuestions column: “Broke up. I’m having a hard time, feeling used. Any suggestions on how to get over this?” . Yes. A few. . Fall in love with your new state of freedom. I mean it. *Go out just by yourself. Find a restaurant. Order something fancy from the menu. Go to the bar and just chill. *Me-time galore! Do whatever brings you pleasure. The real kind. Savor. Enjoy. It’s soul filling. Soak it in. *Figure out what you want nexts for YOU. Before anything else. Just you. What do you want most? That’s your new focus and direction. *Love yourself. Fall in love with yourself over and over again. Do light makeup for YOU. Buy and wear beautiful lingerie for YOU. Revamp your wardrobe. Do everythjng for YOU. Every day. *create a new ritual. Go out and get fresh coffee and people watch every morning. Or learn a new skill. Do something you haven’t done before. You will LOVE your new space very soon. I promise. . Guys, how would you answer this? Tune in. . 🤍РУССКИЙ⬇️ . 📷: @theframed.photography . #relationships #life #livingnotes #livingnotesqanda #dating #photography #inspiration (at Venice Beach) https://www.instagram.com/p/CPY1bkvHbKF/?utm_medium=tumblr

Pa-pa-pa-parenting: which way is your way? Or rather, which color are you? . In psychology there are four predominant parenting types. If using color psychology, here what they would look like: ⚫️ Black. Authoritarian type. Inflexible. Strict. Super-high expectations. Punishes rather then disciplines. “There is only one way - it’s the “mom/dad way” type. 🔴 Red. Authoritative type. Nurturing. Affectionate. Discipline through guidance. Letting kids learn through mistakes. “If you don’t believe me, try it for yourself” type. 🔵 Blue. Permissive type. Warm. Welcoming. Barely any boundaries. Super-responsive. “Well, this is my child and that’s what he needs ( while watching kid climbing over neighbors car)” type. ⚪️ White. Uninvolved type. Emotionally detached. Self-absorbed. Inconsistent boundaries, if any. “Go play, I am busy” type. . Isn’t this interesting? I personally believe that there are far more than four colors, there is a whole rainbow of parenting styles, but we all DO have a dominant color. I also think that parenting color styles can change with course of life, too. . What do you think? Which color is your dominant? . PS: I can write the characteristics of kids’ behaviors per different parenting type. It’s crazy fascinating. Do you want me to? . русский ⤵️ : ВОСПИТАНИЕ . #parenting #familytime #livingnotesqanda #livingnotes_parenting (at Los Angeles, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpU_bKvFuYS/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1l4gzdvjs7kol

Yesterday’s post spiked some conversations! I always love a good chat❤️ Different opinions, of course, but here is what I think. For me, a birth plan was very helpful. I also want to emphasize ( based on comments) that birth plan, in my view, is not telling the doctor what do to.🤗 Here are the absolute benefits of why it was so helpful for me. 🍂 we discussed different scenarios with my doctor. I knew WHAT could happen, what, generally, is done in different situations. I was familiar with different protocols. 🍂 I was able to talk about important-to-me points and understand the doctors view on things. For example, it was important to me to be mobile during labor. It was important for the doctor to monitor the baby and my vitals to access the process. We discussed the best way to get it all done, rather than having me lay flat on my back ALL the hours of labor, as it was with my first, because it was easier for nurses to hook me up to a computer. I didn’t know any different then. I wish I did! 🍂 for me, a birth plan was something I could lean on at the tough moment. I remember with my 3rd baby, my first 100% natural birth, that there was a moment I felt scared and thought that I couldn’t do it. I prepped for this. My husband and nurses knew what calms me. It was in the birth plan. They were able to give me the support I needed those very last few minutes that are the most intense. I was so glad we all had something to lean on. 🍂 I also very clearly understood that a birth plan is NOT a set “how-to”. The birth plan is a collection of paths to get to the main goal : a healthy birth. For me, knowing what can happen took the stress of unknown away. And that alone was worth it 1000x over. . What do you think? Did you have a birth plan? Did it help you? . #baby #birth #livingnotesqanda #livingnotes_pregnancy (at Los Angeles, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpScamIluTf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1rk1rm399ebc0

I was right about to right “happy wednesday” when I realized it’s Thursday 🤦🏼‍♀️ Busy week! I’m seeing lots of new faces here, it’s probably time for a little intro and a hashtag-guide. Hashtags have a ton of info, but about me in a nutshell: I moved to US exactly 20 years ago this year, and lived more here now then anywhere else in the world. US definitely shaped me as an adult in a person I am today, and this is my second Motherland. I was born in Ukraine, traveled through/lived in different places in Europe and US, thanks to dance tours and career then, and I love traveling and revisiting places with my kids, thanks to LivingNotes, modeling and blogging career now. Here, LivingNotes, we cover all things from family, to health, to food, to beauty ( what girl doesn’t love beauty?!), to travel places and tips. I am also a big advocate for working women and working mothers in particular. . We live in LA now, have 7 kids ( still can’t believe it myself), and loving every bit of it. Truly. What else do you want to know about me? . A hashtag guide: . #livingnotes_dayinlife #livingnoteslife #livingnotesQandA . #livingnotes_mamamonday #livingnotes_tuesdaytips #livingnotes_familyfriday #livingnotes_wednesdayforwomen #livingnotes_thinkingthursday . #livingnotes_howwemet . #livingnotes_readersmail #livingnotes_tips #livingnotes_travel . #livingnotes_babyfood #livingnotesbirthstory #livingnotes_pregnancy #livingnotespregnancy #livingnotesreviews Tell me where you are from! ~~~~~~~~ Только собиралась написать «прекрасной среды!», когда поняла, что четверг сегодня уже 🤦🏼‍♀️ Насыщенная неделя была 🤗 . Вижу много новеньких, сохраняйте пост с гидом по тэгам! О нас/мне есть много в разных категориях, но если коротко: Я приехала в США ровно 20 лет назад в этом году, и прожила бОльшую часть своей жизни тут, чем где-либо ещё в мире. США безусловно сформировали меня в того человека, которой я есть сегодня, и для меня это моя вторая Родина. По рождению я - украинка; много жила в/ездила по разным уголочкам Европы, США и Канады, спасибо гастрольной жизни в более ранние годы, и с радостью посещаю эти места теперь уже с детками, спасибо LivingNotes и разным съемкам и проектам⤵️ (at Los Angeles, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bm1T2lnnGww/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1o220nqiselq8

I had a few requests for must-read books for pregnancy and birth prep, I think it would be great to share our favorites! what do you think?! Here are some of the favs on my list: • Grof’s basic perinatal matrices ; Stanislav Grof. Groundbreaking for me. You will never look at your child again the same way. I applied his suggestions, the difference was huge. • Expecting better ; Emily Oster. This is a fresh look on all standard things pregnancy related. I think there are lots of great things! • Mindful Birthing; Nancy Bardacke I think is a good middle ground, mixing the alternative and using modern science and medicine. • Hypnobabies course. It’s different from hypnobirthing. I personally love the “babies” a lot more and everyone I know who compared the two, agreed that hypnobabies has a better effect. But we all are different 🤗 . What do you, guys, want to add? What was most helpful to you? I also loved pregnancy diaries - simple, but kept me happy. Anyone used those? Or apps? #pregnancy #booklist #livingnotesqanda ~ Так, просили список книг для подготовки к родам и почитать во время беременности: пишу! Некоторые из моих любимых: • Grof’s basic perinatal matrices ; Stanislav Grof. Для меня это был переворот сознания. На малыша больше никогда вы не посмотрите так же и понятие «ребёнок раздражает» вообще перестаёт существовать. Самая сильная книга для меня. • Expecting better ; Emily Oster. Мне очень нравится этот современный подход к беременности. Без всяких «ахов/охов», а так, как на самом деле есть. • Mindful Birthing; Nancy Bardacke Чудесная золотая середина, на мой взгляд: представляет альтернативную точку зрения, но без фатализма и с уважением к науке и медицине. • Hypnobabies курс. Отличается от Гипнородов - техника и исполнение другое, и , как на мой взгляд, так и их опыта других, «babies» более эффективен. Очень рекомендую! . А ещё, я использовала просто дневник для беременных - мне очень нравились ежедневные заметки. Кто пользовался такими? Ещё приложения есть разные тоже. . Кто что читал/читает, что можете порекомендовать? Что для вас было самым информативным во время беременности? . #nothingisordinary #livefolk #thatsdarling, #flashesofdelight (at Los Angeles, California)

{русский: восстановление} Body after the baby - things that I do that help. • Pilates Both, mat and reformer, but I give 90% if the results to the reformer. It is not cheap, but I highly recommend at least one or two sessions with an instructor. I had a privilege of having an “in-house” instructor in the busy dancing days, but the technique is extremely important to get the results. Whole Body Method is great in LA. If you know places in your area - comment below for others to find them too! • Postpartum corset I give this little things another 90% of success. I put my on immediately after birth. It helps with recovery and it helps for organs and muscles to go back to their shape. Also supports loose joints after the birth. Make sure to get the medical grade one - others can be damaging or not effective. I used @bellefit from my 3rd baby on. • Body wrapping techniques. I swear by these. When done right, they achieve multiple functions: help the body to go back to its natural shape ( the elastic bandages), they help with hormonal balance because of the detoxification ( which , i feel, is important. There are lot of adjustments the body has to deal with after the baby), and the biggest of all - they help the skin to come back to its original shape. The key is persistence and consistency. I really saw the results after the 7th baby once I put effort into actually doing what is required from my side. A great one in LA that is safe during breastfeeding is @laslipwrap . What helped you after the baby? PS: we just soft-launched a new tool for you all - LivingNotes_Translation. All of the comments will be translated into the second language to bridge the language gap between the followers! Guys, you can talk to each other too! Ask each other questions! Read each other’s stories! We will be your translators! . #bodyafterthebaby #livingnotesqanda #style #ootd #denimstyle #sezane ~~~~~~~~~~ Восстановление после родов - что мне помогло: • Пилатес Оба варианта, и на коврике, и на станке, но 90% успеха я полностью отдаю реформеру. Найдите пилатес студию рядом с вами - это то, что помогло мне закрыть диастазы и восстановить тазовое дно после родов, чтобы 👇🏻 (at Los Angeles, California)

Bookmark the post, since the requests keep surfacing: Some of the ways to get get clean/organic foods on a good budget that I found helpful to us: ✨membership at wholesale places like Costco, etc. There are more and more organic options there. ✨smaller chain stores like Trader Joe’s: they have fantastic quality non-grocery items that are priced great! Fruit and veggies , with a few exceptions, I’d prefer to buy elsewhere. ✨ask your local health food shops for discount on bulk orders: 10-20% off is easily given, but I had 40% off purchases too, depending on what you buy. ✨ community orders: google health-conscious communities in your area. FB groups or Meetup is where I look when I need one. Usually, people get together and place bulk orders, and because there are many people, the prices are really good. Same goes for farm trips: get together with someone, being bulk is much more budget friendly. ✨ organic does not equal “best”. I personally prefer Kosher over organic, but better yet, if there is a way to find a small farmer and make friends with them - that’s the ideal. You help someone, and you know the quality is amazing. Many of these small farmers cannot afford organic certifications, but the quality of their food is better than some of the big organic labels. ✨ ask a local store for the time when they discount produce. I practiced this for years. Every local health food store discounts their produce on a certain day and/or at a certain time. If you come right around the time, better a few minutes before, you can get best picks of organic produce at 50-70% off or more. It’s not the most convenient of the methods, but, hey, when you get a haul of amazing produce that can easily be frozen for smoothies and baking and only pay a few dollars for it, it’s worth the hassle in my book. . What can you, guys, add? Curious, is this something you even worry about or food is not a big deal for you? Do you guys want some recipes? #food #laeats #organic #ecofriendly #recipes #livingnotesQandA ~~~~~~~~~ Оставляйте пост в закладки, потому что я забуду, где и когда он был опубликован, а вопросы сыпятся всегда.🤗🙂 . Варианты, которые очень даже хорошо помогают 👇🏻👇🏻 (at The Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal Studios Hollywood)

✨continuing on sleep✨ Some may disagree, but here are bits my experience and things I wish I knew as a first time mom: ✨newborns can feed for as long as 45 minutes at a time, but older babies are a LOT more efficient. Generally ( remember, there are always exceptions), an older baby takes about 15 minutes to feed, the rest is pacifying. ✨nursing the baby to sleep disturbed our sleep cycles. At the end of the day, neither one of us really slept : the baby would wake up when unlatched and I never truly rested either. ✨ learning the sleeping queues, setting up the routine and attaching the baby to that routine is a lifesaver. Bath, blanket, pacifier - whatever works for the baby, they all have their place. Creating a routine that can be easily done anywhere else is very helpful to me. We don’t get attached to a certain bed, room, etc. I can easily repeat the steps anywhere else, and babies fall asleep the same. ✨ record baby’s sleep cycles: this helps a lot to understand where baby’s natural lung cycle is and to shift it towards the night now. If it’s too hard to record by hand, there are plenty of devices/baby monitors right now that do the job beautifully. ~to be continued. What do you wish you knew as a first time mom? There are so many things that turned out to be different than what I imagined! #sleeptraining #sleeping #babysleep #newborn #livingnotesqanda ~~~~~~~~~~ ✨продолжаем разговор о сне✨ Возможно не все согласятся, но вот кое-что из моего опыта и несколько моментов, которые я хотела бы знать, будучи молодой мамой в первый раз: ✨новорожденные малыши могут кушать по 45 минут, но малыши постарше кушают намного эффективнее по времени. В общем ( всегда есть исключения), но малышам уже через пару месяцев после рождения, необходимо около 15 минут для полноценного кормления, а вот остальное время - это «сосочничество», часто переходящее в «сосочничество перед сном». ✨ кормить - вернее давать возможность «пососочничать» на грузи, чтобы заснуть, для меня лично создало только проблемы со сном как мне, так и малышам. Малыши никогда толком не спали, и либо всегда просыпались в момент, когда я отнимала их от груди, либо👇🏻