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1. He’s fully committed to you and your relationship together.

Being there throughout the good times is easy. It’s when the going gets tough that he and I stick together. Real men don’t run out after a little fight, nor take it out on their significant others when they’re in a bad mood.

2. He doesn’t avoid problems.

Like I said, a real man doesn’t run out when things get rough. A real man is comfortable talking through the issues, unlike you. He understands that even major problems don’t define the relationship; it’s how you both work through them that does. YOU’VE LITERALLY JUST GOTTEN UP AND LEFT ME AT A BAR, TWICE, SO I’M READY TO LEAVE YOU; GO GET A MORE BETTER, FOREVER.

3. He pays attention to the little things.

I can spend a whole morning in your bed. Somehow our sexual counters once felt so intimate, but intimacy is more than making love. I once thought that maybe it was you, because sex with you, is something so seemingly real… but truthfully, the second we stop, is the second I stop loving you, because you don’t give a rats ass about anything I do. We share nothing real, you can’t even be bothered to give any of your time to anything that makes me, me.

4. He is smart and wise.

YOU: Are a fucking, self-righteous, high-horse-riding, arrogant prick, with a decent dick. You have no problem criticizing my mistakes, but you can’t even admit to a single mistake you’ve made. In your mind, you are perfect, and I will never be anything but flawed to you. Why the fuck would I stay? You think you know it all, you even told me I was stupid, you can’t learn from anyone because you shut off your mind a long time ago. It’s time for me to go.

HE: Is wise beyond his years, he admits to his faults, and embraces his fears. He lives his life in a way that makes use of every single day. He will never stop bettering himself, and learning from life. This is why I want to become his wife, and make use of the rest of my life.

5. He wants me to feel good about myself.

I may be the most beautiful woman with whom you’ve shared a bed… but you thrive off of belittling everything inside my head.

6. He makes my problems his own.

Example #1. Even though, you told my best friend, you’d be the guy to come get me… YOU FUCKING LIED, and you never even tried.

Example #2. My issues, are a detriment to you - in which you need time to “decompress” … LOOK, DUDE, I never asked you to be there for me, I never expected anything from you, but you begged me to let you in and tried to tell me that I could trust you. Yet, anytime I did come to you, you didn’t bother to comfort me, instead, you allow yourself to boast about your pride.

Example #3. When my mother said those things to me…

you never even asked what was going on. You didn’t have a fucking clue, and you sure as hell didn’t care. You always assume the fault is on me, I will always be the one you blame. I’m so fucking done with your manipulative game.

Life, with its many twists and turns, cannot be compared to any other solitary thing. Life is too deep, wide, strange, evocative, breathtaking, challenging, and remarkable to be like anything that exists inside it.

During times of joy, it is easy to see the upsides of life. We celebrate as an infusion of fresh life and energy is added to our sphere of existence. Graduating school, obtaining a new job, getting married, finding an amazing new group of friends, moving to a new town, getting promoted, and completing a massive passion project are some of the important events we may experience in life. Life is certainly a gift — the greatest gift of all.

However, if we’re being honest with ourselves, there are just as many heartbreaking and motivation-weakening moments in life as there are good times. At least, the hard moments hit us as strongly as the great ones do. It can be hard to bounce back from a defeat, loss, or betrayal, even for the most resilient of individuals.

Life gets ugly sometimes. Life can be painful — extremely painful, even. We lose things we never thought would disappear. We encounter obstacles we never imagined would stand in our way. We walk away from agonizing conversations we never thought we’d have to be a part of.

Life becomes a battle. It’s a daily choice between good and better, action and laziness, clarity and confusion, hope and hopelessness. We don’t always know if we’re going to make it out, or how far we’ll get at all. We lean on our most trusted of friends and family to provide what strength they can for us, and we swear to ourselves we’ll repay them with goodness when our time comes.

We press on into the unknown, giving uncertainties our best shot and taking action with what we’ve been given. Life is about finding honest ways to triumph over our struggles, and sharing that beauty with others.

Here are 43 quotes and truths about people, relationships and the rollercoaster of life (and the particularly ones that I like):

There are some roads you have to take alone.

No matter how educated, talented, rich, or cool you believe you are, how you treat people ultimately tells all. Integrity is everything.

Pick your battles. You don't have to show up to every argument you're invited to.

Not everyone thinks the way you think, knows the things you know, believes the things you believe, nor acts the way you would act. Remember this and you will go a long way in getting along with people.

Three types of people to surround yourself with: the inspired, the excited, the grateful

Knowledge is power, but enthusiasm pulls the switch.

It takes a level of self love, of dedication and determination to live your greatest life. So look within. Look at every area of your life and ask yourself these questions: Am I on course? Am I growing mentally, emotionally and spiritually? Anything that is blocking that, anything that is preventing you from living your greatest life, make the tough decision to let it go.

You fall, you rise, you make mistakes, you live and learn. You're human, not perfect. You've been hurt but, you're alive - to breathe to think, to enjoy, and chase the things you love. Sometimes, there is sadness in our journey but, there is also lots of joy. We must keep putting one foot in front of the other even when we hurt. For we will never know what is waiting for us around the bend.

There’s a reason why two people stay together. They give each other something nobody else can.