#laneyvitale

For a year I was dating someone on roleplay (not naming any names in this post.) They were charming, funny, caring and completely compassionate. I was really happy with them and it was to a point we took things real life. We talked everyday on kik, para’d cute dates because they didn’t have skype and things seemed really well. One day an account popped up and I spoke with this person and we became really good friends. After a few weeks of talking to her and dating her now brother I started to pick up on some similarities. Both typed the same, knew a lot more about each other than they should’ve considering they’d never met in real life and the sister claimed she didn’t have a phone to kik on. It made me a little paranoid. I would have panic attacks constantly because my boyfriend would tell me he was in the hospital or he had been in an accident. Yadda, Yadda, Yadda. Now for most of the people who do know me they know I’m someone who cares deeply for people. I like to see the best in them and for me I didn’t want to believe I was being lied to. I shook off the paranoia and tried to believe everything he said but it came to a point where one night his “uncle” kik’d me from his account and told me that he had been attacked and that he was dying. I had to work all day the next day and was already stressed out about bills and shit going on in my real life. When I heard that it all took a major toll on me. I started to throw up and was having a panic attack. It got so bad that I didn’t sleep at all that night and I had spent it in bed crying and freaking out. It was then his sister popped in with the “he’s alive” shit and it made me kind of confused considering he was “in acoma and had no way of telling her he was alive or not seeing as his uncle only had the kik info. I finally said enough is enough. I talked to some of the people he was friends with and all said he never talked to them. Like he had all these “friends” and yet none had even talked with him? Seemed hella suspicious. So I decided to disappear for a bit. After a few days he kik’d me saying he was awake and missed me. He told me how much he loved me and how when he gets back we’d para so he can make it up to me since the day he “got attacked” was our anniversary. I accepted (like an idiot I still had hope he wasn’t lying) and we had a “para date” in the para he typed the name of a very well known fuck boy on roleplay rather than his own name. I got super off put by that and did some research. After doing a bit of hunting I caught on that they had the same profile info on their pages, they both used the same face claim and they even acted the same. It hit me like a truck when I realized his excuses whenever he’d bail like “i got in a car accident, i was in acoma, etc, etc” were all just lies created so he could be on his other account more. Then shit got even worse when I found out his “sister” on his account was also him. It fucked with me pretty bad and I wanted to share this so anyone out there doing the whole “catfish” thing knows what you are doing to people whether you know it or not. I still to this day won’t let someone fully in. I don’t trust anyone who adds me and wants to be friends, I assume everyone is lying to me almost 99% of the time and even when someone I start to like tells me they like me back I instantly find a reason to part ways with them because I fear they will fuck me up just as bad as this person had done to me. If someone adds me now I have to check out their page to make sure they aren’t this person as well because I’m so damn afraid of getting hurt like that again. I’ve lost so much trust in even the most trustworthy people and I’m afraid of ever falling for someone. I’ve been so emotionally scared by this situation. So if you think it’s okay to do it because you’re bored or unhappy with your real life, it’s not. You’re hurting people. You are making them believe you are someone completely different than who you said you are. It’s not okay. You need to be honest with anyone you interact with. Never fake your photos, or your life story. Be yourself. If you don’t like your real life don’t bring it up. Just keep it private. Don’t make people believe your lies only to hurt them. And don’t ever if you’re engaged think it’s okay to fool around, send nudes or date someone on roleplay because that is CHEATING on your real life partner. If you do do this you don’t deserve that person you’re with. So yeah now that this embarrassing shit is out. I’m gonna go hide in a hole somewhere because I feel stupid for ever believing any of this.