#kthxbye

here is my question for you: what is one piece of advice that you've been given that you'll never forget? (or, alternatively, a piece of advice you'd give to someone else!)

have a lovely timezone!!! <3

shivered me to my timbers. not in a bad way but I was like looking around my room like me? hello?

ok well. hm. it's hard because I tend to conceptualize things in the sense that once they are told to me, I take them and form my own idea out of them based on other things other people have told me, if that makes sense? so I don't often have One Thing someone has said to me I have ten things twelve people have said to me that I've combined into One Thing

so I guess one of the biggest life lessons that I've at least learned (especially as someone with the no-impulse-control disorder) is to think about what you're saying before you say it, and the implications that will come because of it. I don't mean in every day conversation, I mean specifically in serious topics (or if you're around someone you need to be careful what you say around, for whatever reason). do I speak without thinking? sometimes, yes, we all do. but I also often turn it around in my head a few times, and then sometimes I decide that you know what? I don't need to say that right now.

I do that on tumblr a lot, actually, where I'll start typing something, think, "does this really need to be said?" and then I decide it doesn't, and I leave a happier person! I apply this to real life conversations, to comments on the internet, pretty much everywhere.

Something that kind of goes hand in hand with this is seeing the perspective from the other person's point of view. I think I unintentionally play devil's advocate a lot, not because I'm trying to antagonize or whatnot but because I'm genuinely trying to understand what's happening as a whole (this gets me in trouble with my friend sometimes when she just wants to complain and isn't ready to hear Actual True Things and I'm in the corner psycho-analyzing it!! so be careful lol)