I wore a purity ring. I actually still have it in my hope chest at home, sitting in a ring box. I remember those times where God would convict me because I looked at it as a "Sex Protector" of sorts. I wore it from 7th grade until last July 4th (engagement). So many times, I remember looking down at it and thinking that it was so much more than a chastity belt. It had everything to do with my heart, to make sure I was first living for God and second living with my future husband in mind.
But it hurts me seeing girls forced into wearing purity rings. It kills me that they think that in order to be a "good virgin," they have to wear a ring on their finger. I completely agree that literal virginity has been idolized. But that's because so much of the church has made purity/righteousness about sex. And because we don't know how to properly talk about sex. We don't discuss the power of sex in a marriage. We don't talk about how beautiful it is and was created to be. It's just a no-no until your wedding night. And then from there it isn't discussed again.
There have definitely been some ground gained in this area for the Church recently. I don't want to make it all about sex either. I just want to see a healthy Church, unashamed of God's creation, teaching children what true purity and righteousness look like and how it is properly attained.
Hint: it isn't through a silver/gold band on your left finger until you get married.
Submitted by Kayleigh (if you're not following this wise woman, i don't even know what you're doing with your life. I seriously respect this girl so much.)