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Dear anonymous, 

That is an excellent question and quite a challenging one at the same time. I will do my best to answer your question successfully, please let me know if I have succeeded.

Wiki defines pansexuality as such:“Pansexuality, or omnisexuality,[1] is the sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity.[2][3] Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.[4][5]”

“Anatomical Sex; Sex (sometimes called biological sex, anatomical sex, or physical sex) is comprised of things like genitals, chromosomes, hormones, body hair, and more. But one thing it’s not: gender.” - Genderbread.org

This situation sounds like a genderblind person who still finds their sexual attraction being limited to a specific sex. 

In general, pansexuality is defined as both blind to gender and sex. Within these definitions, that situation may not fit ‘pansexuality’. That said, I am not quite sure if there is another definition for being genderblind yet wanting one sex. There are also plenty of pansexuals who are attracted to certain gender identities which are prominant in one sex - for example: If you are attracted to masculinity, you are attracted to people with masculinity. Masculinity is found in all sizes and shapes, however, one person may end up finding their attraction more in men. In that case, I would argue that the person is still pansexual as they are not limiting their sexuality.

In short, that may not fit the conventional term of pansexuality. Perhaps you are pansexual but you have not met anyone in another sex that has attracted you? Ultimately, you choose your label (if you choose one). You have to choose one that is right for you. Let me know if you have anymore follow up questions.

Love,

Виктор Пелевин - КГБТ+ Нарочно прочитал сначала transhumanism, чтобы быть в теме, но по-большому счёту, это необязательно. Да, какие-то вещи поймёте глубже, но вполне можно читать и как отдельное произведение, и даже в обратном порядке.

(интересующихся отправляю к своему посту от прошлого ноября)

 Это всё ещё книга о будущем мира на примере России. Здорово обыграна история с предназначением, с тем, что нас ведет по жизни - как маяк, поставленный прежним воплощением.

  Интересно раскрыта идея запретов и ограничений, насаждаемых в нас с детства обществом. 

Теперь, в мире матриархата, даже если мужчина раскачается в спортзале, один сигнал в мозг и любая женщина отвешивает ему оплеуху, а он моргает в ответ. Также работает и система психологических ограничений: 

хочешь сделать что-то новое или запретное - сам же себя и остановишь (через усвоенные нормы и ограничения)

  Чтобы их преодолеть люди и проходят тренинги личностного роста и ходят к психологу. Но по Пелевину, у людей будущего, есть и другой путь новая область искусства: 

Вбойщик (у меня ассоциация с кольщик) 

музыкант, который транслирует образы и смыслы из своего мозга прямо в мозг слушателей – B2B (brain-to-brain), вызывая у них множественные ассоциации, откровения и инсайты. Т.о. не нужно больше познавать истину самому – доверься, что кто-то познал её за тебя и гораздо лучше и качественнее. 

Впусти инсайт в свой мозг.

Со смыслом обыграно мирное вторжение России в экономику других стран: все ветра зарождаются над Сибирью, и все страны, которые использует ветряки должны платить квоты на ветер, неплательщикам сжигают ветряки боевым лазером

Отдельный смак - это ретеллинг Снежной королевы с использованием современных терминов вроде харассмента  Одним словом, Пелевин всё ещё хорош и свеж в своих прогнозах и саркастичном описании реальности. Если вам интересно, то ближайший прогноз - создание своих криптовалют в Европе и России.

It is important to keep in mind that most lesbians do not support the “gender critical” trans-exclusionary “radical feminists”, the TERFs.

In an interview over at the Advocate two lesbian women and LGBTQA activists, Cindy Rizzo and Roey Thrope, explain in a compassionate and insightful way why they support trans women.

Cindy, 64, lives in New York City and works in LGBTQ philanthropy. Roey , 57, lives in Portland, Oregon, and is a consultant to social justice organizations.

They talk about the history of exclusionary feminism and explain why they no longer can accept this way of thinking.

Cindy explains:

My journey to becoming a trans ally was gradual. I was beginning to put the pieces together. I started to examine my own gender expression and identity as a butch lesbian who was attracted to femmes. 

During Pride Week in New York City some years ago, an African-American lesbian was assaulted by security and forced to leave a restaurant because she had walked into the women’s restroom and was thought to be a man. 

That was a galvanizing event in my mind that showed me how connected the struggle of butch lesbians was to that of trans women and men. That event was like a fork in the road for me. 

I could have chosen the path of those who say that the patriarchy is like a siren that is forcing butches to transition. But I felt that I’d be twisting myself and my politics into a pretzel to believe that because the lives of transgender people prove it to be so wrong.

Roey adds:

I also started having some pretty big moments of change. One of them was coming to understand that gender is a spectrum, not a binary, and that many of the butches I was so attracted to didn’t see themselves as women at all. 

And then I met Frances Billker, a trans woman who became a dear friend, and once I loved her all I could see was the things we had in common, including a love of sparkle. My friendship with Frances caused me to start reading personal stories that made me challenge my assumptions about trans people and about gender more broadly. 

And then, as the leader of an LGBTQ organization, I got to know many more trans people, all with their own journeys, who challenged me further. I witnessed a trans movement growing, and over time I became a dependable ally; the power of watching people come out and begin to live openly was both very familiar and undeniable. And hearing how much damage that people with my lesbian feminist beliefs had done to trans people both in the past and currently became something I had to both admit to and apologize for.

Read the whole interview here.

You do not need dysphoria to be trans

The term transgender has, at least since the 1990s, been a broad umbrella term referring to many types of gender variance, including nonbinary identities and people with gender expressions outside the binary. Many of them do not suffer from gender dysphoria. 

It could be, though, that your question is based on a more narrow understanding of transgender, as in “those who have transitioned or want to transition to another gender”, whether this is socially, legally or through body modifications.

This is where things are getting complicated, because the answer to your question depends on your understanding of gender dysphoria. 

In this debate a lot of people equal gender dysphoria with body dysphoria, referring to some kind of alienation from your given body. This is indeed a very common expression of gender dysphoria, but the American psychiatric manual, the DSM-5, allows for other variations, as well.

Here’s what the DSM-5 says. I have added emphasis to some very important phrases.

Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults 302.95 (F64.1)A. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least 6 months’ duration, as manifested by at least two of the following:1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated sex characteristics).2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and /or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics)3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender.4. A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).[p. 453] B. The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

You need to tick off only two of the six variables to be diagnosed as gender dysphoric, and as you can see, three of them are not referring to the body.

By the way, in the DSM-5 the term transgender “refers to the broad spectrum of individuals who transiently or persistently identify with a gender different from their natal gender.”  This is a much broader concept than “those diagnosed with gender dysphoria” (who are normally referred to as “transsexuals” in the medical community).

As I see it, gender dysphoria is the mind and the body’s way of expressing some kind of distress caused by a misalignment between your real gender identity and the one you are expected to present to the world. This  does not have to be a feeling of “being trapped in the wrong body.” 

I personally find it hard to understand how someone would be motivated to go through all the pain of transitioning socially and/or medically without  feeling some kind of distress because of their present gender status. 

I know that some argue that there are trans women and trans men who transition for purely sexual reasons (”fetish!”, “autogynephilia!”). But DSM-5 is clear in this respect: Sexual frustration may also be a sign of gender dysphoria, and you will find that those trans people who do have cross-gender fantasies, also report many other reasons for wanting to transition.

Note also that gender dysphoria will be significantly reduced or disappear in trans people who have transitioned. They are still trans.

To sum up:

1. Transgender is an umbrella term that encompasses all types of gender variance, and gender dysphoria is not required.

2. Gender dysphoria does not require that you are feeling alienated from your body.

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