#justso

thoughts.. relationships. you love someone, he/she loves you back, you go together. sometimes it is working out well, sometimes not. you have your ups and downs. sometimes one get hurt. sometimes it stays forever. all in all it is just a big question mark in my head. why. for what. you love someone, i understand. you want to have this person around you all the time, i understand. you want to spend your life with this person, i understand. but why do we need to give it a name. why do we even give everything a name. this is what mostly makes it hard. people see or hear from wherever how a relationship works, what you "must" do and what you should not do. it get stuck in your head. all you think about is 'am i doing it right like this?' 'am i good enough?' 'is this what a relationship looks like?' and so much more instead of just enjoying the time. there is no need to be jealous, but we are because we want this person for us only which is kinda weird and selfish. mostly we give up on friends, no matter how close they are just because of a deeper relationship. why are we like this? just because we think it is only working like this? because someone told us to be so. we should keep good friends no matter who comes in our life. we should be able to have our own mindset. we should be able to feel free and not like 'i am in a cage now called relationship where i am not allowed to do anything'. sure, some are like this, i get that, but some are not and this is also okay. if you really love someone you should not try to change the person to have the same way of thinking like you in this point. you can be a person who is against having male or female friends in a relationship, but the other one maybe not. just leave it then, talk about it and do not just be like 'no, i do not do that so you can not be like this'. this is so awful. if you really love someone you should try to understand it if they are different, but do not try to make them have your way of thinking, just accept them or go. most of us are going too rough on that. just stay with the person you love without giving it a name or rules. just be there, just be you. am drifting away again... all in all, stay with the people you love, keep them around you, be kind, try to understand them and just be happy for having them. if it is not working as you wish for, then leave it, there are so many people in this universe, you will find the right one some day or you do not. but do not force anything. appreciate what you have and take the bad or not working out stuff as a thing to learn from.