Poem of the Week:Â âHow to Write About Sandâ by Jessica Wiseman Lawrence
For this installment, Iâm going to highlight a poem that was published just last week in Jersey Devil Press:Â âHow to Write About Sandâ by Jessica Wiseman Lawrence. Â As the title suggests, the poem is concerned with how one might convey an experience through poetry.
âHow to Write About Sandâ is structured into five couplets. Â The first two couplets present ways of talking about sand that the speaker rejects, while the last three couplets present options that the speaker finds more compelling. Â The speaker does not state explicitly, however, what distinguishes the one group from the other, or why that distinction matters. Â Finding that out is an exercise left to reader.
So letâs run through that exercise, shall we?
The ways of talking about sand mentioned in the first two couplets are all clichĂŠs.  Sand is routinely connected to âtime,â âsunsets,â and âsinkingâ (lines 1-3).  These are connections that are made so often that they donât impart any strong emotions onto the reader.  They arenât striking visuals or witty turns of phrase; theyâre just overly-repeated words.  If the speaker wants to use sand to convey an emotional message, such commonplace tropes will not serve her purpose.
How then should one write about sand?  I see two threads running through those last three couplets.  The first is an emphasis on sand as a tactile substance:  it is âin her hair, on her scalpâ (line 5).  In fact, the poem keeps returning to sandâs relationship to the body, how it gets beneath your nails and past your lips.  Getting a feeling from sand almost requires actually feeling it.
The second thread is the notion that sand a substance that refuses to leave.  The speaker finds the sand in her nails and bed âa week later,â and she âwill never forget the sand in [her] mouthâ (lines 7, 9).  Sand stays with a person not just physically but also mentally, as memories, as ideas of a past impressions.
So now we have two aspects of sand the speaker wants to draw out: it is tactile, and it is constant. Â We just need to determine to what end these aspects of sand are employed.
The most likely answer is that the speaker is using sand to express her feelings about a past relationship.  For one, relationships tend to both be physical and have lasting emotional impressions.  For another, it helps explain the âherâ in the third couplet, a figure distinct from the speakerâs âI.â
What are the speakerâs specific feelings regarding this past relationship? Â Those are harder to pin downâand, given the title, perhaps not necessary to know. Â However, the final couplet might offer a few clues. Â
For one thing, sand in the mouth is an unpleasant feeling.  It dries your tongue and tastes terrible.  From this we can guess the relationship left a bitter impression.  For another, after biting on the sand, the speaker âremembers that it is not a fragile thing, at allâ (line 10).  Biting sand suggests resistance, but sandâthe memory of a relationshipâdoes not give way easily.  This is a relationship that the speaker wants to move past, but the nature of the relationship will not permit her.












