My turn to ask a Jarch question: what do you think Jean's relationship with her dad was/is? Both how they interact, and how they view each other?
Ok so first of all, while writing, I realized that thereâs an information that I thought was canon, that may in fact not be because I canât for the life of me figure out where it would come from⌠If someone knows, please tell me! Or, alternatively, if someone put this somewhere in their fic, please tell me too because it might be my source! XD
So, I thought that Jean had chosen to work on her healer abilities on the advice of her father. Which contributes a lot to how I see their relationship. Frederica is Jeanâs main teacher, obviously, but the healing part doesnât come from her, though. It comes from Seamusâ advice, and also itâs important to note that this is more about âadviceâ than âteachingâ or âheritageâ: Frederica tells Jean what she must do as a Gunnhildr; Seamus tells her what he thinks might fit her when sheâs in doubt about what she wants to become and what she wants to learn. Heâs less hands-on than Frederica about his daughtersâ education, and more into guiding and providing advice when they come to him.
It also shows that Jean thinks highly of him and trusts him both to talk to him and tell him about her doubts, and follow his advice. I also really like the idea that she incorporated a bit of him in her way of doing things. She was raised mostly as a Gunnhildr and does things the Gunnhildr way, but she also trained to be a healer because her dad gave her the idea.
Overall, I think of him as a pretty chill and easy-going dad. Frederica was the one worrying about shaping Gunnhildrs and he left that to her, so he focused more on taking care of the other aspects of child rearing. Like providing fun, affection, giving a listening ear, etc. I think he always got on well with both his daughters and still does.
But then I also think of him as becoming distant, especially with Jean since she stayed with her mother after the divorce which meant he stopped taking care of her the way he used to. But heâs distant, but more accidentally so, rather than him being cold or uninterested or anything like that.
I think heâs a workaholic, like everyone in this family. x) Heâs very invested in his role in the cathedral, heâs very busy all the time, and now heâs even away on Varkaâs expedition. And since Jean is also a workaholic, it doesnât leave much time to see each otherâŚ
Also, as I was saying, I think of him as a pretty easy-going dad, and when his daughters were young, it made him a fun and chill dad, but now that theyâre older, well⌠He doesnât want to overstep or tell them what to do or be nosy since theyâre old enough to take care of themselves and he trusts them to do it right. So he lets them be and keeps back. Again, especially with Jean since he doesnât live with her and wasnât her guardian anymore when she was still a child. Heâd be very happy to provide for anything his daughters would ask of him, heâs waiting patiently for them to come to him, but theyâre not kids anymore, they have their own life so he lets them be. I think Frederica tends to show her love more through concern, gifts, keeping tabs, while Seamus shows it through trust, leeway and being there when asked to. The only problem is⌠Do you think Jean actually goes to him when sheâd like to see him? No, of course not, she doesnât want to be a bother! XD And thatâs where lies the problem: Seamus keeps back because he doesnât want to be a bother, but Jean doesnât go to him because she doesnât want to be a bother. So yeah⌠his chill dad attitude now makes him an aloof dad .â.
If you want to move the sadness cursor up, for fic purposes, I have described Jean and her fatherâs relationship as âprofessionalâ. I think they still see each other because they work with each other from time to time, but itâs not the time or place to act as father and daughter, so they act according to their position instead. But then they donât get to spend time together outside of work and also it kind of feels like they have already seen each other recently so taking the time to see each other again outside of work feels like indulging (especially from Jeanâs point of view) so they donât. Which means that they only interact as colleagues nowadays⌠Their relationship is suffering from it⌠Theyâre not used to be parent and child anymoreâŚ
I think Jean is very much a family person and resents that she doesnât spend time with her dad anymore, the same way she resents not being closer to Barbara. The divorce hit her hard :(