About Facebook and looking for a job and friends and Katherines
It is quite funny how people passed through your life without you knowing it.
I was cleaning my Facebook wall, you know, because I’m looking for a job and I don’t want any embarrassing or stupid post ruins the chance for me. I have heard a lot of stories about that, yeah. I don’t even know why I reactivated my Facebook ?? Should have keep it deactivate and avoid all these mess. So, I was just scrolling and deleting weird posts on my wall, and reading them made me realize, I knew these people and they knew about me. A lot of people reply to the hashtag challenge which was trended on Facebook few years ago (You like their post, and they will put #theirimpressionsaboutyou on your wall). At one point during my highschool years, I was so active on social media. All the birthdays were wished, all the Christmas and New Year and Lunar New Year and Valentine and University Exam, I tagged my ‘friends’ and, well, said something nice. Reading all these posts really separates the me now and the me 5 6 years ago. My last Facebook post was almost 2 years ago. My friend list went from full (around 5000 friends) to 119. My FB probably was deactivated for a good 1.5 years up until recently, when I decided I want to know what is going on with some real friends. But really, it probably just because I want to have an excuse to not do something else. I always laugh at the memes about how people open social media apps, close it, and then open it again right after, circling through like 5 apps. I thought, what a pathetic life, unproductive and meaningless. Here I am, circling through Facebook, Instagram, Reddit endlessly, even though I just closed them 2 seconds ago.
You always hope for something new and interesting to happen, to be reported, to be shared. It keeps your mind busy for a while. But then you never really think about that ‘friend’ who commented on your post last week, and you will not notice that is the last time you guys ‘interact’. Few years passed, you sit there and cleaning posts, and it just struck you with the “Oh yeah, that guy, I wonder what’s going on with him now”. And you move on, and to remember about him after few more years, if you didn’t delete that post. Or else then, farewell.
I begin to think the saying Out of sight Out of mind is true. They need to hold a very special place in your mind in order to be relevant in your life, without meeting them for like, 2 weeks? Friends like Kate or Kathy (funny how both of my best friends chose the Katherine name - which means ‘pure’ in Greek I think, and none of them are pure at all. But that’s for another jar) are so so rare for me. You can talk to them for hours and hours, then disappear for 1 month and then pick up the conversation right where it was left. And mostly through Messenger. I have known both of them for about over 5 years. I met Kathy twice during our first 4 years knowing each other. With Kate was a bit better but after we finished college, not much hanging out anymore. The point is, they stay in my mind because they are somewhat special for me right? And to argue that one has to be physically next to you to develop that kind of relationship is bullshit because me and Kathy exist. So how does 2 minds come connect to each other and attach for that long, while you will probably forget about that classmate you study together for 4 years, right after graduation.
I know it should be really easy to understand. I just cannot. Reminder to read a book about how people become friends, or best friend to be exact. I tried to search but everything they say is ohhhh you have similarities or you are just too different so you guys attract each other like magnets yada yada yada. Give me a break, if Kate is a pen, Kathy is a leaf, then I will be a table. Yeah because there is nothing similar, nor opposite about us. Maybe somehow we understand each other?
What am I trying to say anyway? You forget things too easy, and people are just one of those thing. It is weird to think that, this might be the last interaction between you and someone. Of course, it’s not that important to the people we barely know, it just weird me out.
